re: First grader threatened to stab my son

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" I don't think he should be suspended, as another poster said its a day off school for them. I'd want ... [snip!] ... with the principal. Don't go in all guns blazing though, imagine how horrified you'd be if your child said that to someone."

Yes, this.

I know when your kid is being bullied it's tempting to go in there and be like "WHERE IS THAT LITTLE SmUrfSTICK? LET ME AT HIM!"
haha...

But, maybe he's got a smurffy life. Or, maybe there's more to the story that you aren't aware of.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" I don't think he should be suspended, as another poster said its a day off school for them. I'd want ... [snip!] ... with the principal. Don't go in all guns blazing though, imagine how horrified you'd be if your child said that to someone."</blockquote>


Yeah, my neighbor's mother (also my neighbor, they live next door) works for the bus company and spoke with my son's bus driver that's why they moved the seat the same day. She got the boy's phone number but I didn't know if it would be appropriate to call them or if I should go through the school. I'd be mortified if my son did anything like this so I don't want to get nasty with the parents or anything but I'd like to get an idea of why he said that to my son.

While I do not feel threats from a 1st grader warrant the same concern as an older child, I do not think the kid should be suspended but I would want to personally discuss the issue with the childs parents.

best of luck

We had a prob with dean, he's also in 1st grade...

Dean told a lil girl we was going to put woodchips in her eyes   they called me asap and recomend I get counseling, I took him that day for emergency eval, along with other stuff he was eventually diagnosed with adhd and odd... dosnt give him an excuse to scare people...
Me my husband and his father were together when we talked to him, I rarely spank Dean because it dosnt do anything to him, but I'm sure his dad let him have it   he hasn't threatened any1 since...

Its really up to the parents to do anything, Deans dad was a mess in school he got suspended left and right expelled from our district, to go to my homecoming dance, my mom and aunt had to come, and the school had cops outside the venu because he was there   his parents didn't do smurf to help him or figure out why he was so bad, when we took dean to get diagnosed dr asked about our own history, in so many words the dr. Said my ex had to have had odd, took prison to get him to act right...

<blockquote><b>Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" I don't think he should be suspended, ... [snip!] ... like this so I don't want to get nasty with the parents or anything but I'd like to get an idea of why he said that to my son."</blockquote>




I think you should call. You gave the school the option to handle it, it hasn't been up to your satisfaction so you have every right to talk to them as adults and understand. They can then punish their child as they see fit.
Kids learn these behaviours from somewhere.

Have the parents been notified of the incident?

I would demand more be done... whether that's the right decision or not, I react first if I feel like my child or I has been "wronged."

<blockquote><b>Quoting ¡Haute!:</b>" If she's really in PA, policies in that state indicate that school vehicles and bus stops fall under ... [snip!] ... school setting, the school should also have a part in reprimanding him. He should definitely be seen by the school counselor."</blockquote>


Yes, I'm in a suburb about 10 minutes outside of Pittsburgh PA. Thanks for the link, I wasn't sure what the laws were as far as school and outside of school jurisdiction go. I agree school should be a part of his punishment. I have no idea how his parents even reacted so I'm not sure if they did nothing or were severe with punishment or something in between.

Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" I don't think he should be suspended, ... [snip!] ... like this so I don't want to get nasty with the parents or anything but I'd like to get an idea of why he said that to my son."

I think it'd be best to call the parents, and just ask if maybe their child has ever mentioned your child, and then kind of give them a little heads up about what you've been hearing from your kid. See what they have to say, see if they'd like to maybe sit down and discuss it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" Yes, this. I know when your kid is being bullied it's tempting to go in there and be like "WHERE IS ... [snip!] ... LET ME AT HIM!" haha... But, maybe he's got a smurffy life. Or, maybe there's more to the story that you aren't aware of. "</blockquote>


Yeah, my mom was like who is this little bastard I'm going to call his parents myself. I said no mom, leave it alone we don't even know why the kid said these things.

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" We had a prob with dean, he's also in 1st grade... Dean told a lil girl we was going to put woodchips ... [snip!] ... dr asked about our own history, in so many words the dr. Said my ex had to have had odd, took prison to get him to act right..."</blockquote>

Yeah James has ADHD and odd himself. He's on medication for the ADHD so we haven't had any issues with his behavior in a long time but maybe this other boy his similar issues. That's why as angry and worried as I was when my son told me, I didn't want to assume this boy was just some little smurf because I have no idea if he has mental issues or if he has some kind of abuse going on.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... their child as they see fit. Kids learn these behaviours from somewhere. Have the parents been notified of the incident?"</blockquote>



The principal called the boys parents and he said the mother was surprised and assured him her son does not have any knives or anything like that. He's the youngest in the family so I'm not sure if his older siblings said or watched something that stuck in his mind or not. I think I'm going to call the parents I just didn't want them to be angry at how I got their number. I didn't even ask for it, my neighbor just said well I have it if you want it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rd.:</b>" I would demand more be done... whether that's the right decision or not, I react first if I feel like my child or I has been "wronged.""</blockquote>


I agree, I don't want my son to feel like he wasted his time telling us either. I don't want him to feel like nothing will be done if he could be in danger and not say anything should something come up in the future. I also don't want this boy to think its ok to go around threatening people because he had no real consequences at school.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" I think it'd be best to call the parents, and just ask if maybe their child has ever mentioned your ... [snip!] ... about what you've been hearing from your kid. See what they have to say, see if they'd like to maybe sit down and discuss it. "</blockquote>




I think that's a good way to go about discussing this. Thank you!

Quoting 💙Jenny&Boopy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" I don't think he should be suspended, ... [snip!] ... like this so I don't want to get nasty with the parents or anything but I'd like to get an idea of why he said that to my son."

I'd be careful calling the child's parents, if you decide to do so. If this kid is threatening to stab your son, he might have a terrible home life.

<blockquote><b>Quoting FaithLovesPussyCats:</b>" I'd be careful calling the child's parents, if you decide to do so. If this kid is threatening to stab your son, he might have a terrible home life."</blockquote>



This is true :/ that is why I haven't already called. I'm not sure what kind of people they are and I don't want to have them angry at me or hurt their child in any way. I just want to understand why he said such a thing. Idk, this is tricky.