re: Closed.

I can't drive i don't have a working phone and i don't have a vehicle i live with my mom who only has an s10 okay i'm not defending myself i'm new at this i came for addvice not to be critizised and being told i'm neglagent her doctor is a jackass he always says she is fine and then he tells us she has a cold like we have told him 3 different times the ER isn't trained to deal with babies they said!

Quoting Victoria051712:" I'm a first time mom i'm trying my damn hardest okay i do not neglect my baby my mom keeps saying i'll ... [snip!] ... and smiling and giggling i didn't want to look stupid posting this but i just hate that she spits it all back in my face ."

I understand you are a first time mom, but YOUR mom isn't. She should know that a baby needs to eat formula/breast milk and not just pedialyte. Did you even consider a new formula? She may not be tolerating this one well or you may be putting too much cereal. Why does your mom need to call the doctor? YOU need to call for YOUR baby. Please take your child into the hospital or doctor, she isn't eating and they need to figure out why.

Quoting Victoria051712:" I'm a first time mom i'm trying my damn hardest okay i do not neglect my baby my mom keeps saying i'll ... [snip!] ... and smiling and giggling i didn't want to look stupid posting this but i just hate that she spits it all back in my face ."

it's not your mother's child. it's yours. use your head. why are you waiting for your mom to call the dr about your child? and i can't figure why your mother thinks it's ok for the baby not to be eating????? or at least it sounds liek she is ok with it because you said she wont call the dr and tells you to give her that other crap.

Quoting Victoria051712:" I can't drive i don't have a working phone and i don't have a vehicle i live with my mom who only has ... [snip!] ... and then he tells us she has a cold like we have told him 3 different times the ER isn't trained to deal with babies they said

Does your mom have a phone? Why can't you call on her phone? There isn't a family member who can take you to the doctor? The ER is trained to take care of babies, wtf does that even mean. If her doctor is a jackass find a new one. If your child isn't eating and you are doing nothing about it that absolutely is neglect. If you have no phone, no way of driving somewhere, no way to get your baby help and your mother won't help you find help for your child, that is a terrible situation for a child to be in. Take her to a different doctor or a different hospital. It's not normal for a baby to not eat. You were advised to seek medical attention for your baby, so do it.

She has been on soy for two months and because i don't have a phone right now my mom has never had this problem with me nor my brother the town i live in sucks for doctors beyond anything i figured she'd be fine because aside from the other stuff she seems happy and chuncky she acts like a normal baby until she eats and its bed time and wanting to be held.

Quoting Victoria051712:" I can't drive i don't have a working phone and i don't have a vehicle i live with my mom who only has ... [snip!] ... and then he tells us she has a cold like we have told him 3 different times the ER isn't trained to deal with babies they said!"

I only have one baby and was a first time mom, too. So I know what it feels like to be clueless but it's your job to educate yourself. Especially when your baby has a medical condition, like reflux, or when they are sick.
Do you own a baby book?? Sometimes you can't trust your mom. YOU are the mom now. You HAVE to find a way to get your baby to the doctor because as a baby, she can't.
Letting it go for a week has only made things worse. She hasn't been getting the nutrients she needs to grow for a whole week, which is a long time when you are only 12 weeks old, know what I mean? I don't mean to make you feel bad, but you should because right now you are not doing your job as a mom. Please get your babe to the doctor. Good Luck.

All the doctors she has had are like her doctor i can't go out of town its to far along with my family i live far away from family and another hospital we took my daughter to the ER and they said we don't know whats wrong were not trained to deal with babies my mom isn't always around to let me use her phone she leaves a lot i'm not asking for people to bitch me out i am asking for advice so if your going to bitch at me then go somewere else and bitch at someone else.

Quoting Victoria051712:" She has been on soy for two months and because i don't have a phone right now my mom has never had this ... [snip!] ... the other stuff she seems happy and chuncky she acts like a normal baby until she eats and its bed time and wanting to be held."

That's usually the pattern of behavior for reflux babies. It hurts when they eat and makes it hard to sleep. Eating is a baby's number one priority, so when she's not doing that it doesn't matter if she smiles, SOMETHING IS WRONG. You are very blessed to have such a happy baby, given the circumstances. But it's not fair for YOUR situation (no car, no phone, etc) to put her through hell. You wanted this baby, right? Well, this is part of being a mom.
And the ER absolutely is the place for your baby right now. Maybe you just didn't explain the situation well to the doctor the last time you were there. And I say that because in your original post you didn't even mention that your baby had reflux at all. So, When you tell them that she hasn't eaten well in a week, I promise that they will help her. Stop making excuses. This isn't about you, it's about your baby. Going much longer without formula can be very, very bad.

I do not own a baby book i live in a really tiny town and i hate it since i've had her i'm pretty much left out of everyones fun but her dad he comes to hang with us when he is not working.

Quoting Victoria051712:" All the doctors she has had are like her doctor i can't go out of town its to far along with my family ... [snip!] ... people to bitch me out i am asking for advice so if your going to bitch at me then go somewere else and bitch at someone else."

OUR ADVICE IS GET HER TO THE ER!!! If you cannot do that then walk to a neighbor's house and use the phone to call an ambulance. There is nothing you can do at home for her at this point.

Quoting Victoria051712:" I do not own a baby book i live in a really tiny town and i hate it since i've had her i'm pretty much left out of everyones fun but her dad he comes to hang with us when he is not working."

I gave you advice. I told you to take your child to the doctor or an ER. There is no doctor or hospital that wouldn't be concerned if you told them that for a week she hasn't been eating her formula and only pedialyte. So what is your plan if your child is burning up with a fever and is sick and needs medical attention? How will you get her to the doctor without a car and no one to help you? How would you call 911??

Quoting Victoria051712:" All the doctors she has had are like her doctor i can't go out of town its to far along with my family ... [snip!] ... people to bitch me out i am asking for advice so if your going to bitch at me then go somewere else and bitch at someone else."

You should never be at home with an infant without a phone... you have internet apparently, so tell someone over the internet that you need to be picked up to get your child to the doctor.

Quoting Victoria051712:" I do not own a baby book i live in a really tiny town and i hate it since i've had her i'm pretty much left out of everyones fun but her dad he comes to hang with us when he is not working."

I don't understand how you feeling left out has anything to do with your sick baby? So since you feel abandoned you're going to show everyone just how helpless you are by not seeking medical treatment for your young infant??

You sound extremely immature and you are not ready to be a mom. This situation was pretty straightforward...Your daughter is sick, you take her to the doctor. You wait a week, so now you take her to the ER. I don't get why you're not understanding. You cannot actually be this dumb. If you are, maybe have someone else care for this baby.

Quoting Mel152009:" You should never be at home with an infant without a phone... you have internet apparently, so tell someone over the internet that you need to be picked up to get your child to the doctor."

Right? She could email ANYBODY on facebook and tell them to call 911 for her.

Quoting Victoria051712:" All the doctors she has had are like her doctor i can't go out of town its to far along with my family ... [snip!] ... people to bitch me out i am asking for advice so if your going to bitch at me then go somewere else and bitch at someone else."

everyone is telling you to get her to the dr. your refusing to listen. I understand your a kid yourself, but it's time to stop and grow up. dont' be so suborn. your the only voice your child has right now. so take her back to your dr. i know you don't like the dr, but it's your only choice other than the er and you said they didn't know anything.