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Thats how i feel my my marriage has been. Always wants me to do all theae things that he can't even do. We agreed that ex flings and ex bfs/gfa will be off limits to our fb pages. I know sounds childish but I know a few of his exs are always stafting drama and ill admit my exs are exs for a reaspn and I intend on leaving them in my past. Well dh adds about 5 doff gurls a day to his fb. He's got about 6 exs on his page and anytime he posts a status about even indicating there may be trouble in our marriage or anything there so quick to message him or comment on his status.. it annoys me. To top it all off I've been stayong up all hours of the night with our 3 week old while he sleeps through hours of her screaming. When I try and wake up for help he just rolls over. Oh and when we were able to have sex before baby, he was all about pleasuring himself. End of rant.

Ummm yeah I would leave...

Btw sorry for all the misspellings. On my phone.

Oh hell no seems that he cant be with just one person. He has issues that he needs to resolve if you both want it to even work out. I dont see why any of you should still be in contact with your exes. They should be long gone. Hope you are able to put a stop to all this and move forward you need respect and he isnt giving you any.

1. He needs to leave personal business off of social media.. 2. Maybe try both deleting FB for a bit and use that time to reconnect with each other and your new baby

<blockquote><b>Quoting WhY bOtHeR:</b>" Oh hell no seems that he cant be with just one person. He has issues that he needs to resolve if you ... [snip!] ... should be long gone. Hope you are able to put a stop to all this and move forward you need respect and he isnt giving you any."</blockquote>




See thays how I feel amd he thinks I'm being insecure. I'm sure that. He would feel the same way if the roles were reversed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" 1. He needs to leave personal business off of social media.. 2. Maybe try both deleting FB for a bit and use that time to reconnect with each other and your new baby"</blockquote>




That's deff a good idea. Its been since before we had our first child (2.5) since I felt any romantic connection with him. Like I don't even want to kiss him or anything because he's been such a insensitive. smurf since I had his kids. I constantly tell him things need to change. But he takes it as a joke.

You're not stupid for having feelings. That being said, you're also not his mother. If you think your controlling factor is the only thing between his exes and infidelity then you may want to reconsider who you're with. It's facebook, it really shouldn't be given so much attention. However, he also should NEVER post anything that has to do with your relationship problems. No one in a relationship should.

He should be helping with the baby. But there are a lot of factors that go into this. Does he work? Do you work? If he works while you stay home, is it possible for you guys to work out a schedule for who helps when? So he gets enough sleep to function and you don't feel abandoned?

As for sex, that's something you need to verbalize to him. Tell him what you want/need. It's not going to get better without coaching/instructions.

Quoting That Girl.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" 1. He needs to leave personal business off of social ... [snip!] ... been such a insensitive. smurf since I had his kids. I constantly tell him things need to change. But he takes it as a joke."

It may help, or it may not. My hope is that by spending more time focusing on each other rather than a computer, it may help to eliminate issues and have him remember why you guys fell in love. Maybe take an hour each evening without technology. Play a board game, talk about stuff, etc. Keep it lighthearted though. No anger, no bitching, no arguing. Just reconnect. Save talking about your issues until after that hour is up. I know it's hard with a new baby though.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting WhY bOtHeR:</b>" Oh hell no seems that he cant be with just one person. He has issues that he needs to resolve if you ... [snip!] ... should be long gone. Hope you are able to put a stop to all this and move forward you need respect and he isnt giving you any."</blockquote>




How did you come to this conclusion? Does he apparently bang everyone on his friends list?

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting WhY bOtHeR:</b>" Oh hell no seems that he cant be with just ... [snip!] ... See thays how I feel amd he thinks I'm being insecure. I'm sure that. He would feel the same way if the roles were reversed."</blockquote>




You are being insecure. That's human nature, but you need to be honest with yourself and with him, about why you feel the way you do.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting WhY bOtHeR:</b>" ... [snip!] ... being insecure. That's human nature, but you need to be honest with yourself and with him, about why you feel the way you do."</blockquote>




Well I know for a fact he wouldn't want me to be in contact woth my exs ao what makes it ok for him to be?

Oh and a new finding apparently he was on my phone texting my gfs. One he was getting in her bisiness asking what was going on with her and her bf. The other was to my gf saying she needed to come over to jave a drink which was fine but then goes and says do you still have your blow job in your car.. see I do not find that humorous. Marroed men shouldn't speal like that.

Oh and I'm currently on maternity. Normally I wouldn't need or aak for help but seeing as she has colic and cries from 12-5 a.m. and he wont even wake up with her at all, he thinks I should just leave her be and let her cio but she only is 3 weeks for smurfs sake. Hell also let her sit in her dorty diaper unless I tell him to change it then he geys all bent out of shape that I'm telling him what to do. He's like a smurfing big baby.

Quoting That Girl.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" ... [snip!] ... and says do you still have your blow job in your car.. see I do not find that humorous. Marroed men shouldn't speal like that."

No... they absolutely should not be doing things like that. It sounds like it's a bunch of sexual inuendos. Is he sexually frustrated at home? I mean.. I know you guys cant do it right now, but how was it before baby was born?

Quoting Ellie.:" 1. He needs to leave personal business off of social media.. 2. Maybe try both deleting FB for a bit and use that time to reconnect with each other and your new baby"

  I think I would be more pissed that he is blasting your marriage all over facebook...

But after I had my daughter I had some PPD and me and my husband went through a really rough patch (looking back, it amazes me that we made it through), but we mutually decided to delete our facebooks for a little while and focus on us and no one else and it helped A TON!