Getting driven crazy =/

I really need to vent and I know my crazy ass fiancee is driving me nuts! The worse part is today is our fourth anniversary and he is being Cray Cray!

The background into this is I got caught talking to guys a few times now the first two times conversations got personal , in the sense that I talked about my sex life with my fiancee with those guys or about those retarded teenage years. But the last time I talked to this guy just out of boredom he messaged me on aim, and stupidly I replied. But for once I did not over step the rules with the conversation but I did break the rule of not talking to a guy.

I hid it because he would have left me and took my kids, so I get how that looked fishy but I only did it because I did not want him to leave me over a few very innocent conversations.

So now everyday and all day he stalks my smurf which is fine I told him to do that and told him I will do whatever it takes to get him to trust me. But he is always accusing me of some new smurf, or picking fights over everything and treating me like a criminal. I am starting to break down , the constant smurf is getting me to a point that I want to leave because I can not live like this anymore.

This is a pointless vent but I needed to get it out because I love him and do not want to lose him :'(

You broke his trust. If you had agreed not to talk to them, then did it anyway and lied about it, how do expect to be treated?

Trust is the hardest thing to rebuild in a relationship once it's been broken.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:</b>" You broke his trust. If you had agreed not to talk to them, then did it anyway and lied about it, how ... [snip!] ... lied about it, how do expect to be treated? Trust is the hardest thing to rebuild in a relationship once it's been broken."</blockquote>




He has done worse and I never was as bad. I could care less about him checking my things. I deleted email accounts because he requested and even made a new facebook that him and I can use together were actually editing it tomorrow and finishing up with the deletions.

Quoting MAMAx3♡:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:</b>" You broke his trust. If you had agreed ... [snip!] ... even made a new facebook that him and I can use together were actually editing it tomorrow and finishing up with the deletions.

Sooooo, if you are doing it to each other, why are you together???

You have to build the trust that you broke back. It's hard very hard but it can be done. My husband did something like that a few years back. It was hard for a while but were happier than ever now.

Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:" Sooooo, if you are doing it to each other, why are you together???"

 
It doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. Have you considered relationship counseling?

Being in an equal relationship is not about one-upping one another to see who does the worst thing to the other person.

Seems like you both need to grow up.