re: What to do from here?!?

Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" I would leave. Why did you say your son couldn't stay with him? Seems kind of childish to me(if he's not a threat to him)."

Would you leave your son with someone who had just choked you out?
I wouldn't.

Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" I would leave. Why did you say your son couldn't stay with him? Seems kind of childish to me(if he's not a threat to him)."

Childish....Far from.
I said my son could stay because he was going nuts and throwing my smurf around the house.

Quoting S U Z I E:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mulisha_Tink:</b>" So my Fiance and I have been fighting a lot ... [snip!] ... Well, if she already doesn't like him and there's any possibility of you all working things out, I would not get her involved!"

That's where I am at though. Do I work through it for my son? or is there really no coming back from something like that?

Quoting Mulisha_Tink:" That's where I am at though. Do I work through it for my son? or is there really no coming back from something like that?"

You absolutely DO NOT stay for your son. That is the dumbest excuse, and I hate hearing it.
Would you rather your son grow up thinking it's okay to abuse his spouse? To grow up seeing you miserable, and mommy and daddy fighting all the time?
Or would you rather have your son grow up in a loving household with someone who isn't his bio father?
Fathers don't have to be blood.

Quoting Mulisha_Tink:" That's where I am at though. Do I work through it for my son? or is there really no coming back from something like that?"

You and your son deserve more than that. So much more. Your son deserve a positive role model in his life.

Coming from a kid who lived in an abusive household for 6 years-its not worth it

Quoting Mulisha_Tink:" Childish....Far from. I said my son could stay because he was going nuts and throwing my smurf around the house."

I would leave him and I def. would not leave my child with someone who is "going nuts".

Go get your baby... work can wait. If he can lay his hands on you who's to say he can't put his hands on that baby. With you saying that it's not his son you might have put doubt in his head and he can very easily turn his anger towards your child...

This may have no influence over what you decide to do, but I was abused by both or my parents because they grew up thinking it was ok to hurt others because that is what they saw. My mother beat me within inches of my life 4 years ago. My father thrw me into a brick wall almost breaking my back when I was 11 and almost broke my knee when I was 8. You don't want your son to grow up seeing you miserable and getting hit. He may begin to think that is ok behavior between two people and do it to his spouse/significant other. Thankfully my fiance, who grew up seeing his dad beat his mom, doesn't even talk to me when he is mad, because he is afraid he will hit me and I will leave and not let him see our daughter who will be born in a few weeks.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mulisha_Tink:</b>" That's where I am at though. Do I work through it for my son? or is there really no coming back from something like that?"</blockquote>




Please do not stay for your son....LEAVE for your son....or the cycle of abuse will continue....My fiance was abused/ saw his dad abuse his mom and now has self esteem and anger problems resulting from it....It will definitely NEGATIVELY affect your son if you stay. LEAVE for him please