Discipline advice?

My LO is 3.5 years old with developmental delays and I'm struggling with disciplining him lately.

I will admit it, I am feeling like I have no idea what I'm doing. He is stubborn and this weekend has been a nightmare. He doesn't like picking up his toys and most times I end up giving up and cleaning his room myself. He ignores me. Oh, what toddler doesn't ignore their mother? But I have no idea what to do about it. When he decides to misbehave and I try to talk to him or tell him what isn't allowed, he ignores me. Tries to get away from me or is persistent to put his weight on the floor so that I can't get him to sit down.
I don't know what to do.
I am frustrated. I have all these expectations of how I should be disciplining. I read a positive disciplining book that seemed to work and sometimes it does but most times... he's just stubborn! I worry that I am not stern enough or I'm stressed out that I'm too stern.
But we also have a language barrier. He is talking more but he doesn't enunciate very well so it makes understanding each other to be difficult. And considering that he does have developmental delays, it is also hard to know what he is understanding from me.
I don't know.
I haven't found a book that specializes in everything I need. I've read websites and articles about raising a child with delays but everyone has their own way that works for them and I am having such a hard time finding our way.
Sometimes I'll find that time-outs do the trick and then there are times where time-outs do nothing for him.

I don't know. I'm a single mom.

Advice? Someone out there has to have an idea.

My 3 1/2 year old also has a speech and developmental delay. Consistency is key.Time-out is my method and he sits there for a couple minutes, depending on what he did. He doesn't understand or care why he can't do something. But when he does it he knows time out is coming.

Quoting Supafly★:" My 3 1/2 year old also has a speech and developmental delay. Consistency is key.Time-out is my method ... [snip!] ... on what he did. He doesn't understand or care why he can't do something. But when he does it he knows time out is coming."

I need to practice consistency. Nothing seems consistent for us especially when he ignores me. And being in public is worse. He never wants to sit down for me.

AND thank you for replying.... I was feeling hopeless.

Quoting ms. grumpy butt:" AND thank you for replying.... I was feeling hopeless."

No problem. It's not easy handling any 3 year old, let alone one that can't communicate or understand as well as they should.

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I'm going through the same thing with my2 1/2 year old   we do time outs and ignoring the bad behavior. She has a speech delay and behavioral problems. I am a single mom too btw   Single moms are super moms. I have a speech therapist and behavioral therapist coming to help her during the week and that's helping some. You may be able to qualify for a program like that (early start)

My DS is 6 now and went through some of the same things with him. Don't be hard on yourself, you sound like a very good mom. I talked to DS Dr and we decided that a therapist was the best option. It worked although it took time . We still have days but he is calmer, an straight A student, and listens better. Being consistent is key to changing the undesired behavior, find punishment that fits his age and behavior and stick to it. When they are small sometimes its harder for us as parents to stick to the punishment, that was my problem, but its better for them in the long run. Hope this helps and Good Luck !!