Quoting Brink:" wow that's a bunch of excuses " NEVER smoke around him" BUT while he's IN you is kosher "
I don't think that it's "okay" to smoke while pregnant. BUT by the time I found out that I was pregnant I was not going to quit and potentially miscarry or hurt my son worse than if I chose not to quit.
There's no "excuse" for smoking while pregnant there's just do you or don't you? I do and it isn't because I don't WANT to or I think it's too hard. I was terrified to quit because when my mother was my age she got pregnant and chose to quit smoking and ended up going through withdrawals. Well, long story short? My brother was born but died from a seizure because he was still going through withdrawals. I know it doesn't make much sense but here's why-- she has a history of finding out she's pregnant 5-6 months into the pregnancy because she stays so small, never misses her period even while pregnant, and every time she's gotten pregnant she had something else wrong with her so she never thought to add all the symptoms up to pregnancy as well as her other issue. She found out she was pregnant with him at 4 months and my mother had to have a csection at 5 1/2 months because he was causing problems for her. She got sick and couldn't keep anything down, she was having seizures herself and they were a danger to each other. She had quit a week after she found out about him.
I think that's a huge problem and I did NOT want that happening to me or my baby. So excuse me for a) making up my own mind based on a family history and b) weighing the pros and cons of quitting vs not quitting.
The fact of the matter is that it's the mother's choice, not anyone else's. You can judge all that you want but do you truly think that a mother who smokes cigarettes while pregnant with or without cutting down is doing worse to her child than a mother who does drugs the entire pregnancy and doesn't care? Maybe you should be arguing with them and not with us.