re: Smoking Moms

I smoked since I was 15 got pregnant at 20 and quit about two days after I found out. Was actually super easy for me because look at it this way would you blow cigarette smoke directly into your baby's face up her nose? No you wouldn't. That's what made it easiest for me. Also nicotine is a poison it can kill you in certain doses not to mention the rat poison and formalahyde that's in cigarette smoke. I don't see how someone can still light up with their own child inside of them after reading the facts about this smurf but that's just me...

my friend smoked while pregnant with her son and he was born full term average sized with no health issues. back in the day people smoked while pregnant all the time and guess what there kids turned out fine. yes it can cause issues but doesnt mean its going to. yes its better not to smoke but addiction is hard. i dont smoke but veryone in my family does all us kids came out healthy... its a chance ur gonna have to take. the decision is urs.... is it worth taking?

I quit the day I found out I was pregnant with my twins. Then I had them, 6 months later I got pregnant again. I smoked off and on for about the first 6/months of the pregnancy due to stress, and marital issues, but I smoked 1 or 2 a day. Then I quit cold turkey around 6 1/2 months. Then I quit smoking again when I got pregnant with my 4th around 12 weeks cold turkey, and then this pregnancy (4th pregnancy 5th baby) I quit smoking AGAIN around 4 months cold turkey. None of my kids have any issues, except maybe a little adhd, but that runs on both sides of my husbands and I familys. I'm hoping to not start back up again after this baby, but it will be hard when everyone in our family smokes, including my husband :/ I had an ob nurse tell me once that smoking a few cigs a day isn't as big a deal as people make it out to be, she said cut back as much as possible obviously but smoking a couple if you really can't quit is ok. Good luck!

Quoting ~Mrs.Medlin~:" my friend smoked while pregnant with her son and he was born full term average sized with no health issues. ... [snip!] ... my family does all us kids came out healthy... its a chance ur gonna have to take. the decision is urs.... is it worth taking?"

Those babies did not "all turn out fine", many of them had lots of health problems.

Quoting That-Girl:" Those babies did not "all turn out fine", many of them had lots of health problems."

Honestly they just keep posting about how they and others smoked the whole time and nothings wrong with it, it's just going to disgust us who believe it's wrong. I don't know why this thread is still going OP IS trying to quit, so the thread is dead, and yet they still come in defending people who smoke while pregnant saying their babies were fine. They weren't fine they were LUCKY. and no back then they weren't all fine, anyone notice birth defects INCREASED once that generation started breeding.

Quoting Chelsea :3:" Honestly they just keep posting about how they and others smoked the whole time and nothings wrong ... [snip!] ... LUCKY. and no back then they weren't all fine, anyone notice birth defects INCREASED once that generation started breeding. "

People are trying to justify smoking while pregnant is all, and in most cases it's because they continued to smoke. Justification is often driven by a guilty connscience and denial concerning a bad or dangerous behavior/habit. It's really sad to see people justifying it.  

I wound up just PMing the OP with some tools that helped me quit and let her know that I'm more than happy trot talk to her if she continues to struggle or just needs an ear. The last thing someone who is trying to quit an addiction needs is people acting like it's no big deal to continue with the addiction.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rabbit™:</b>" People are trying to justify smoking while pregnant is all, and in most cases it's because they continued ... [snip!] ... thing someone who is trying to quit an addiction needs is people acting like it's no big deal to continue with the addiction."</blockquote>
I was just thinking that exact thing, that you can tell who smoked pregnant by who's defending or advocating it

Quoting hellosky:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rabbit™:</b>" People are trying to justify smoking while ... [snip!] ... I was just thinking that exact thing, that you can tell who smoked pregnant by who's defending or advocating it"

Exactly.
Hell, I smoked but I would never defend it. The risks are very real and I'm willing to bet that a lot of these healthy babies have suffered some consequence of smoking.

Quoting Brink:" wow that's a bunch of excuses " NEVER smoke around him" BUT while he's IN you is kosher  "

I don't think that it's "okay" to smoke while pregnant. BUT by the time I found out that I was pregnant I was not going to quit and potentially miscarry or hurt my son worse than if I chose not to quit.

There's no "excuse" for smoking while pregnant there's just do you or don't you? I do and it isn't because I don't WANT to or I think it's too hard. I was terrified to quit because when my mother was my age she got pregnant and chose to quit smoking and ended up going through withdrawals. Well, long story short? My brother was born but died from a seizure because he was still going through withdrawals. I know it doesn't make much sense but here's why-- she has a history of finding out she's pregnant 5-6 months into the pregnancy because she stays so small, never misses her period even while pregnant, and every time she's gotten pregnant she had something else wrong with her so she never thought to add all the symptoms up to pregnancy as well as her other issue. She found out she was pregnant with him at 4 months and my mother had to have a csection at 5 1/2 months because he was causing problems for her. She got sick and couldn't keep anything down, she was having seizures herself and they were a danger to each other. She had quit a week after she found out about him.

I think that's a huge problem and I did NOT want that happening to me or my baby. So excuse me for a) making up my own mind based on a family history and b) weighing the pros and cons of quitting vs not quitting.

The fact of the matter is that it's the mother's choice, not anyone else's. You can judge all that you want but do you truly think that a mother who smokes cigarettes while pregnant with or without cutting down is doing worse to her child than a mother who does drugs the entire pregnancy and doesn't care? Maybe you should be arguing with them and not with us.

Quitting smoking while pregnant, does not cause miscarriage. Quitting cold turkey could cause withdraw, which in return can cause stress, which could cause miscarriage. But no one here said anything about quitting altogether at the first sight of a positive. Cutting back, to quit, is key. Making the conscious decision to just not quit or even cut back, and using the excuse of miscarriage to justify putting toxins in your's and your unborn child (that is relying on you for life) is just careless and honestly not well thought out. I hope you are LUCKY and have a healthy baby. But you are putting your child at a very serious risk, for your own convenience.

I had quit when I first initially found out for 3 weeks until I debated on possibly terminating then I went to way more than I ever smoked a pack + a day, now that I have reached a decision to go through with the pregnancy I am struggling to cut down I am at 3 so far the past few days hoping to go down to 0 in a week or so.. I was going to start a thread on this but figured it's probably searchable to find my answers... It's going to be hard, but my child's health is worth it. I hope I haven't done too much damage in the few weeks I started again...and I also hope I don't replace the ciggarettes with more food.. lol!  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shelby Manchester:</b>" I don't think that it's "okay" to smoke while pregnant. BUT by the time I found out that I was pregnant ... [snip!] ... than a mother who does drugs the entire pregnancy and doesn't care? Maybe you should be arguing with them and not with us."</blockquote>


TLDE but....

Lmao nicotine is a drug.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brink:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Shelby Manchester:</b>" I don't think that it's "okay" to smoke ... [snip!] ... care? Maybe you should be arguing with them and not with us."</blockquote> TLDE but.... Lmao nicotine is a drug."</blockquote>




QFT!
Nobody was advocating doing other drugs, either. That is a whole new jar of worms.

I am 15 weeks and I quit when I found out I was pregnant right off I quit for my first as well. It's not worth the risk and you should really talk to your doctor. It's not safe for baby and anything you can do will help!

<blockquote><b>Quoting hellosky:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brink:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Shelby Manchester:</b>" ... [snip!] ... is a drug."</blockquote> QFT! Nobody was advocating doing other drugs, either. That is a whole new jar of worms."</blockquote>




  She's the one quoting me in a dead thread telling me go bash on druggie moms. Oh smurfing well.