re: worst day ever

If my husband went as far to make a Ad to Cheat I don't think I could forgive that IMO. And I've took some smurf from DH. I also understand its hard to let go of the father of your child., but there's got to be a hard line in a relationship where something that other person does is unforgivable. I guess it's up to you to find out what yours is. I hope things get better for you. Good Luck!

Quoting ProginoskesII (SuperKink):" So people should allow themselves to be cheated on, and should let go of their self worth? What? I think ... [snip!] ... That doesn't mean that anyone is obligated to, nor does it make them a bad person if they choose to end the relationship."

Lol where did I say that?
If your SO cheated and you decided to stay then that's your personal decision, so YOU made the decision to forgive him and move past the situation.. That's all i'm saying if she's going to forgive him then she needs to do JUST that forgive him and they should WORK together like I said BEFORE! I'm telling her either way it's gonna hurt and either way it's going to take some work, maybe she doesn't wanna leave him.. Despite all of y'all telling her she SHOULD she probably doesn't want to, that's her decision and just because I empathize that with her y'all think i'm telling her to stay when i'm not lol it's her decision period. If he treats her so bad then she should leave but i'm not gonna press the issue..  

either some of you don't know how to read or I seriously need to break it down lmfao..

Quoting J u l i a .:" Lol where did I say that? If your SO cheated and you decided to stay then that's your personal decision, ... [snip!] ... i'm not gonna press the issue..   either some of you don't know how to read or I seriously need to break it down lmfao.."

NO. You essentially told her that she should forgive him because she loves him. And then said that anyone with an understanding of their self worth is just someone with an ego, and anyone who says that she should leave because she deserves better has never made a mistake in a relationship or has never been in a relationship where someone made a mistake.

It's honestly really sad....because it sounds like you're probably in a relationship where someone treats you less than you deserve if you are defending this kind of behavior so much.

Quoting Red Bottom:" NO. You essentially told her that she should forgive him because she loves him. And then said that ... [snip!] ... probably in a relationship where someone treats you less than you deserve if you are defending this kind of behavior so much."

Forgive him because you love him? No, I didn't say that that's how YOU interpreted it lmfao.. I simply said if you love him, and you both would like to work on things to get past this then she should give him a second chance. That's if SHE wants to nobody is pressing her to take him back I could really give two smurfs! Lol.
Again... I never said someone who knows their self-worth is just someone who has a big ego.. I was actually directing that statement towards YOU because you seem like an egotistical bitch who probably has some pretty high ass standards.. Lol.   hencing saying she shouldn't give someone a second chance because he cheated... Let her make that decision... Because I disagreed and said IF SHE WANTS TO she should give him a second chance, you twist everything I say around...
Again.. If you're going to say I said something i'd like to see quotes.. And not tweaked quotes, DIRECT quotes from my comments!
AGAIN! Damn you're slow and annoying, WHERE AM I DEFENDING HIM????
WHERE DID I SAY HIS ACTIONS WERE RIGHT?

I pointed out her two options STAYING or LEAVING... You pointed out one.. Lol.. Get the smurf over it. Oh and btw.. I'm treated wonderfully!   It sounds like you're single and bitter, and maybe JUST MAYBE someone screwed you over pretty bad lol.. So any other guy that you date HAS to be absolutely perfect or he's not worth your precious "self worth"    

Quoting J u l i a .:" Forgive him because you love him? No, I didn't say that that's how YOU interpreted it lmfao.. I simply ... [snip!] ... lol.. So any other guy that you date HAS to be absolutely perfect or he's not worth your precious "self worth"    "

Everything you have said in this thread makes me very sad for the ideals that you have in your head.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Everything you have said in this thread makes me very sad for the ideals that you have in your head."

Why??? Because I believe in second chances??? Everything you said doesn't make me sad, I respect your opinion lol. Oh well  

Quoting J u l i a .:" Why??? Because I believe in second chances??? Everything you said doesn't make me sad, I respect your opinion lol. Oh well  "

Because you sound like someone who is in a relationship where she's not respected and that you're more so defending why you continue to stay in it.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Because you sound like someone who is in a relationship where she's not respected and that you're more so defending why you continue to stay in it."

And.. That's where you're wrong, I am respected.. Even if I weren't that'd be none of your business unless I decided to post it on BG lol you need not to worry about my SO and I.
This post wasn't from me or about me btw in case you forgot because it sounds like you're making it about me when it's not ha.