how should I keep myself UN-jealous of him?

Lol...
No.
But seriously.
We broke up, but still live together.
I know the obvious answer is to move out..
Doing that in March.
But, what can I do until then?
I still have feelings for him.
This weekend he was supposed to be at his moms with his kids and he lied to me and I found out and confronted him and then he told me that he went to a concert and the casino...he didn't say a lady was with him, but I'm sure.
He's 34.
&& he told me tonight that he doesn't want to even know the baby.

I have a plan after the babies born..
The norm ya know..
Child support
Telling his mother
Milking him for all the emotional distress he's caused me.

And he's constantly calling me crazy.
I'm starting to think I am
Like I'm emotional.
And jealous.
And I feel betrayed.

What can I do until I move out to ease these emotions?

Please help (:
&& thanks in advance!

uhhhhh

you do sound crazy. sorry

Go online, make yourself some profiles on dating sites. Once a new man, ANY man starts to give you attention you'll find it easier to stop consuming your life in this douche.

And please....dont be one of those women who dont do for yourself cause you think someone 'owes' you something. Put your big girl panties on, move out and take care of your child yourself, no reason to drag his mother into it. Hes clearly stated he doesnt want you or the child....let him be, millions of single moms do it everyday.

I think it's normal to go through those emotions in a situation like that. Just keep telling yourself you will be the bigger and better person.

Do things to distract yourself
Go out w friends
Read
Work out
Yoga
Movies
Find new tv series
Etc.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" Go online, make yourself some profiles on dating sites. Once a new man, ANY man starts to give you attention ... [snip!] ... his mother into it. Hes clearly stated he doesnt want you or the child....let him be, millions of single moms do it everyday. "

I agree with all of this!!!

I have to say, when I feel jealous of my ex of being married, all I do is be more active on the dating sites and I get responses and I feel loads better. And I laugh at the situation he is in. lol.

Quoting **Hanna**:" Lol... No. But seriously. We broke up, but still live together. I know the obvious answer is to move ... [snip!] ... And jealous. And I feel betrayed. What can I do until I move out to ease these emotions? Please help (: && thanks in advance!"

Leave him be. Don't make a fool of yourself trying to get him to care when he clearly doesn't. Be dignified and don't go tattling to his mom.

why would you want him to try to be a part of the childs life if he's made it clear he wants to be a dead beat? better off without him, imo.

I just think you need to tell yourself that you're not together, it's none of your business where he goes or who he is with.
Do like the other ladies said, get out, start dating, get a hobby, just...Do something productive.
And also, I really didn't like where you said you were going to milk him for everything over emotional distress. My son's father has caused me lots and lots, and still is causing me lots of emotional distress but I take it with a grain of salt for my son. I don't want him growing up seeing mommy upset because of his biological father and some how reflecting it on himself, even though his father has nothing to do with him. Just take the child support, raise your child and be happy.

Its hard to not be jealous of an ex i know this .. but you dont want to look desperate do u? and the things you plan do might make sence in your head but think about it if someone else were saying they were ganna do this would you think it was a good idea? step back and try and focus on your baby

I am so disappointed in women like this. Especially when the first thing on your to-do list is child support.

Quoting Brandi Rodrick:" I am so disappointed in women like this. Especially when the first thing on your to-do list is child support."

I have been where OP is and still am to a point and I havn't asked for child support, I just do it on my own because i know the fight that will go along with it and to be honest I don't want his money. I like being able to do it on my own without him, yes he takes his kids and spends time with them BUT i can do the other things on my own.. i had a friend say it doesnt matter if i want the money the kids are owed it, but how are they owed it IMO if they are not going without than wth?? feel like i am the only one who feels this way

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" I have been where OP is and still am to a point and I havn't asked for child support, I just do it on ... [snip!] ... owed it, but how are they owed it IMO if they are not going without than wth?? feel like i am the only one who feels this way"

I feel that children are owed the child support because even if they are making it by without the father, they could have a better quality of life with that money. The mother could afford access to better education, after school activities, tutors, just a lot of stuff. Me and my husband make it by decently and provide for LO without child support because we've had to fight for it, but even when we got a lump sum from him being arrested most of it went into LO's savings and was rolled into a CD to accumulate more interest for college.

Well this is my third child.
I've never received a dime for either of the other boys.
I've just never felt it necessary.
Then ladies on here kept telling me to do it. I threw it on here because I didn't want 5896575669 more women telling me the same exact thing.

And he is keeping me a secret from his mom. The baby a secret. And the girl he was seeing is keeping out a secret from his mom too.
This is his fourth baby.

He was originally my manager. Threatened to fire me if I didn't abort.
I ended up losing my job, and he cheated on me for two months before breaking up with me.

I was on birth control. This isn't his fault nor mine.

But I will care and love this baby no mater what.

He just got home yesterday and everytime he comes home from being around them he starts acting like a complete dick . he asked me to have his sex tonight .... and he's constantly telling me how much he cares and how much he's going to miss me. blah blah blah blah.
And it really hurt me tonight when he said he didn't want anything to do with him (the baby).

When just two weeks ago he went to the ultrasound and was all excited.

ugh.

i might sound crazy.

i just need to move out.

im deathly afraid of doing this alone AGAIN.

its not his fault i know...
and i will reap what i sowed.

i just hate how he walked away so easily.

Quoting **Hanna**:" Well this is my third child. I've never received a dime for either of the other boys. I've just never ... [snip!] ... doing this alone AGAIN. its not his fault i know... and i will reap what i sowed. i just hate how he walked away so easily."

Im sorry, but this is your own fault. My son was notgoing to stay hidden... You think you would have learned your lesson...

Quoting **Hanna**:" Well this is my third child. I've never received a dime for either of the other boys. I've just never ... [snip!] ... doing this alone AGAIN. its not his fault i know... and i will reap what i sowed. i just hate how he walked away so easily."

You SHOULD go after child support, yes, I think the other ladies were just meaning it sounded kinda...Entitled the way you said it, but judging from this post you're probably just frazzled.
All I can really say otherwise is that the thought of doing it alone does suck, but at least you've had experience and you KNOW you can do it.