re: how should I keep myself UN-jealous of him?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Im sorry, but this is your own fault. My son was notgoing to stay hidden... You think you would have learned your lesson... "</blockquote>




what do you mean?
This is our first baby together, hence the reason i want his mom to know . just about the baby, nothing else.

my othe two sons have a different father.

Quoting **Hanna**:" Well this is my third child. I've never received a dime for either of the other boys. I've just never ... [snip!] ... doing this alone AGAIN. its not his fault i know... and i will reap what i sowed. i just hate how he walked away so easily."

If you guys are broken up then why are you still having sex with him? Sounds like he is just using you and your letting him. If your broken up then its none of your business where he goes or what he does. File for child support and move on with your life, hes not worth the headache.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Im sorry, but this is your own fault. My son was notgoing to stay hidden... You think you would have learned your lesson... "

mmm agreed

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vodka Knockers:</b>" You SHOULD go after child support, yes, I think the other ladies were just meaning it sounded kinda...Entitled ... [snip!] ... say otherwise is that the thought of doing it alone does suck, but at least you've had experience and you KNOW you can do it."</blockquote>




yeah. true. im no rookie to single parenthood.
i just never thought he'd turn into a dick and leave.

and you are right...i did kind of make myself sound entitled .

better watch that next time ig (:

Quoting **Hanna**:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Im sorry, but this is your own fault. ... [snip!] ... hence the reason i want his mom to know . just about the baby, nothing else. my othe two sons have a different father."

Why does his mom need to know?

Honestly, I don't see what there is to be jealous of. This guy sounds like a smurfing loser. He has four kids (no doubt by multiple women), he's 34, he threatened to fire you, he's a douche bag in general, etc. You deserve better than that. Stop lowering the bar so much and set some real standards. Stop giving a smurf about a guy who's being so cruel to you and your child-to-be. I know it's easier said than done, believe me I do. But the sooner you do it the better off you'll be.

As for now try to avoid interacting with him as much as possible (aside from anything having to do with the baby and only if he willingly obliges). Don't text him, don't talk to him, don't smurf him, don't bring family into this, don't try to emotionally extort him or seek revenge, etc. Rise above the dramatic bullsmurf and realize that there's more to life than this kind of smurf.

You deserve better.

Is un jealous a real word?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Monkey Nuts:</b>" Is un jealous a real word?"</blockquote>




Probably not. Who cares?

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" Why does his mom need to know? Honestly, I don't see what there is to be jealous of. This guy sounds ... [snip!] ... etc. Rise above the dramatic bullsmurf and realize that there's more to life than this kind of smurf. You deserve better."

we always tell the crazy, jealous, scorned woman she 'deserves better" -- but dose she? in this case? maybe that's exactly what she deserves out of life. perhaps its the man who desrves better

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" uhhhhh you do sound crazy. sorry"

She's pregnant and been left and told by the father he doesn't want to know their child, what is wrong with you? Hysteria is to be bloody expected in this situation!!

Quoting Shelby Fox:" She's pregnant and been left and told by the father he doesn't want to know their child, what is wrong with you? Hysteria is to be bloody expected in this situation!!"

Uhm... you just joined this site.... Ive known the situation from the post from when she first got pregnant.

After much debate within myself. I've decided that I'm leaving because we aren't meant to be together.

As confused as he tells me he is.
All the times he still tells me he loves me.

One week he wants this and the next week he doesn't.

The kids can't be treated like that..one week he's a Dad and the next he's not.

Yurvette... if you knew the whole situation, there's no way you'd say I deserve this. Lol.

I think as a mother to his child I do deserve better. However, I'm not welling to wait for it.

As far as him deserving better. Perhaps.
But we don't belong together.
That's for damn sure.

I've raised my kids alone this long. I can keep doing it.

You just don't expect the unexpected to happen ever.

Yesterday he told me he wants to be there when he's born and he wants to help name the baby..

Its his child so he can see him and help name him, and all that.

I just went through a rough week. All the lies, all the fake word and emotion I felt him throw at me was over whelming.

So thanks to all the ladies with kind wisdom and suggestion (:

Thank heavens for a place to vent like baby gaga...haha.

In the end it doesn't matter what happens. I'm moving out soon and having another baby and he's trying to get a promotion at work... We both have so much on our plates.

We have to be happy with ourselves before we can ever be happy with any one else or any situation we got ourselves into.

I'm not a bitch. I've never gotten a dime for either of my other boys, and I don't plan on it with this one.
He says he will help as much as he can, and hey, if that's not true then so be it.

I'm financially able to support the kids so I'm not too worried.

I guess over all I was just so scared to do it alone again.
After mulling it over A LOT I realized it won't be any different than it WA last year. I'm a fabulous mother. And I have no doubts that I can give the boys everything they need.

In closing, I'm finally okay with this. And I'm actually pretty excited about the baby coming, the new house, etc.
For the past year I haven't had to worry about the uncertainty of tomorrow. So when w finally decided I was really going to leave, I was scared and nervous and all this emotion just crashed down on me.

But, I'm 100% certain I'm doing the right thing.
And I'm pretty sure I'm not crazy. I'm pretty sure I'm going through all the emotions of a woman going through a breakup, on top of being pregnant, and changing her home, job, and status all in one month.

Thanks again ladies (: