Hurt Feelings

Hey all, before reading further I just want people to know that this may be a bit graphic, (nor pornographic, just specific) but if you are having sex, you know how it is.

My husband and I usually have really good sex. We take time for each other, and both usually end up having an orgasm. He is very attentive and does some very good work below the belt. We have sex about 4 times a week but lately, he has been so tired he comes home straight from work and crashes for hours. Today I did my hair and make up (I am usually covered in baby food as we have an 8 month old who is learning to eat with his fingers. It is a messy process....), put on my sexy panties and a nice dress and was trying to get his attention. He came home from work, held the baby a while, noticed that I rearranged the furniture (in a way he doesn't like) and then laid down to crash on the couch. I let him sleep about an hour then tried to snuggle up on the couch with him. He scooted over and fell back asleep. I waited about another half an hour and woke him back up. He asked what I wanted and I said I was trying to initiate some cuddling which I hoped would lead to sex. He smiled, patted my leg, and rolled back over to sleep.

I know he works a lot and is tired, but my feelings are a little hurt regardless. I don't want my hurt feelings to ruin our sex life and I have a bad habit of letting that happen. I just feel like I keep striking out, so to speak.

This has happened to me too before. I get all pretty and he just goes on about his business and goes to bed. Then I go to get sexy with him and he says he is tired and that he is sorry. I really think they may just be tired and we have to deal with it. It hurts my feelings A LOT too.

Next time try a BJ... while he's sleeping. My BD loves that. If seems like he may be tired... maybe you need to do the work. Get him "up" and put him "down". If you know what I mean...  

I think it hurts his feelings too because if I leave him alone to sleep, he will wake up later, when I am ready for bed, and as me why I didn't wake him up. I just don't get what I am supposed to do. He needs rest and sex, but so do I! He drives me nuts with this! He can be up until 7am and then go to work and come home and crash until almost midnight. I go to bed between 11 and 12, after the baby is soundly asleep. By the time the Boog is passed out, I am tired and not feeling super sexy and we end up either having a quickie or nothing at all. I just want us to have time for each other and not have either of us hurt or unsatisfied by our sleep schedules.

Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:" Next time try a BJ... while he's sleeping. My BD loves that. If seems like he may be tired... maybe you need to do the work. Get him "up" and put him "down". If you know what I mean...  "

I have done this before and it has worked great in the past. However, my husband has taken to sleeping on his side with his back facing the outside of the couch.... So... no access... lol

I've felt the same....course, now at 30 weeks pregnant I'M the one saying I'm sorry.   I've heard it happens to every couple, and it will get better. Personally, I would just go get acquainted with my shower head until a better time, but I know some don't feel the same. And B&B's Mom has an excellent idea as well! ;)

Quoting Abales:" I have done this before and it has worked great in the past. However, my husband has taken to sleeping on his side with his back facing the outside of the couch.... So... no access... lol"

Get naked and tap him on the shoulder... he's sure to turn around. Then get to work mama!!!

Quoting Spiderdaisy:" I've felt the same....course, now at 30 weeks pregnant I'M the one saying I'm sorry.   I've heard it ... [snip!] ... my shower head until a better time, but I know some don't feel the same. And B&B's Mom has an excellent idea as well! ;)"

Lol, I felt the same way when preg. And after the baby was born, I felt bad about my body for months! I am only a few pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight and am just starting to get my groove back. Also, since I am now in my mid twenties I am feeling a lot more sexual than I used to so... yeah my vibrator has been getting a lot more use than usual. It is just a waste to not be able to take out my sexual energy on my husband, as I like sex better and I know he does too. He whined for YEARS about how he couldn't wait for me to hit my sexual peak and now he is too tired to enjoy me!

Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:" Get naked and tap him on the shoulder... he's sure to turn around. Then get to work mama!!! "

Lol, I bet that would do the trick!