Quoting *Berrrr:" I was the same way. I had my daughter and two weeks later we were at the funeral for my best friend who's ... [snip!] ... son passed away at 37 weeks It was terrible. I felt like the worst person because I got to have my baby and she lost hers "That's excatly how I feel. My baby was a surprise and her and her husband were TTC for the longest time. I don't feel like it's fair that she lost her baby that she was trying for and mine survived that wasn't planned and I know I'm terrible person for avoiding her, but I can't justify having her come over where My daughter and I are when she just lost her daughter. I think I would feel different if they weren't both girls.