re: "You limited yourself...."

I was with my ex for 6 years. Im glad that the couple times that we made plans to get married we didnt. I was with him from 16 to 22. I am on year 3 of being single and I dont mind because I dont know how to date, but I know what I kinda want in a SO. I dont want to ever feel like I settled. The last 2 years of my relationship with my ex, I felt like I had settled and I dont want to be there.

I don't think I limited myself at all. In my opinion, I found the person who balances me out the best, who knows me as well as I know myself and who is my partner in everything in our lives together.
Sometimes I am afraid that maybe HE thinks he limited himself. (We are each other's firsts) and didn't get to experience life and being with girls, etc. We partied in college before our kids were born, so that phase of our lives is in the past. But I definitely think that DH and I found each other and will last a pretty decent amount of time. (I don't wanna jinx anything)

I got with SO when I was 20 and he was 19. Now 9 years later we've been through a lot of hard times together and have problems, but I don't feel like I settled

<blockquote><b>Quoting Saffy Sly:</b>" I wish we would have waited too. Because putting of our marriage would have meant we would have put off starting a family. I really was better suited for becoming a parent at 24 than I was at 19."</blockquote>


This may sound crazy but I felt way more prepared with my first at 19, than I do for number #3 at 24... That may be because I wasn't battling depression when I was having my first baby, though?

My husband may have settled but I didn't, lol. We were 27 and 23 by the way.

I got married at 17, and I knew it was a mistake as I was standing outside the church doors, about to walk down the aisle. The marriage was a mistake, but I was pressured into it, and it is what it is. But he treated me like a trophy wife, I was only good enough to sleep with and show off. I felt like a live in prostitute. I dropped out of high school, and he wouldn't allow me to go back or get a job...so I was stuck home with him 24/7. He was afraid I'd find someone new and leave him so he kept me home. We had our daughter a few weeks after I turned 19, so I devoted myself to her and put school on the back burner. For 3 years I was rarely ever away from him for more than an hour. Finally, I put my foot down and went back to school and got my GED. During this time, we filed for divorce because I couldn't take the controlling bullsmurf anymore. I was proud of myself for finally going back to school, even if I was 21....Graduated at 22 (took a while to take the tests since I don't drive), And the divorce took a year to go through, So we were married for 5 years. It's been almost a year since the divorce was finalized, and I can't remember a time in my life when I've ever been so happy.

Anyways, I knew I "settled", for a guy who treated me like a hood ornament, and saw me as nothing but a sex toy. I knew I deserved better deep down, even though I was being verbally abused every day telling me differently. Logically, I knew he was wrong...but sometimes emotions can get in the way.