re: "You limited yourself...."

<blockquote><b>Quoting LumpySpacePrincess:</b>" Sometimes I feel like having kids when we were so young and had barely been together long enough to know ... [snip!] ... see each other at our best and worst, enjoy being young together. Straight from young relationship to serious raising babies."</blockquote>


  This, exactly. We were 1 month in when I got pregnant and now it's just been babies and marriage. No real time to ourselves to be alone and experience life just as a pair.

Quoting kr.r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LumpySpacePrincess:</b>" Sometimes I feel like having kids when ... [snip!] ... pregnant and now it's just been babies and marriage. No real time to ourselves to be alone and experience life just as a pair."

OMG I didnt know you were married now...congrats!

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Thats completely understandable....CONGRATS ON GOING TO SCHOOL!!! Have you decided on a major yet?"

Thanks!

I'm in my school's transfer program. I didn't want to attend university so I started at a community college. They have the liberal arts transfer program so I'm guaranteed admission as a junior to any state university here as long as I maintain good academic standing. I have a 3.4GPA and I'm kind of bummed about it because I wanted to make honor roll.

Anyways, when I transfer, I'll be majoring in elementary education. My original desired major was molecular biology until I realized there was a lot of calculus.   

Quoting Saffy Sly:" Thanks! I'm in my school's transfer program. I didn't want to attend university so I started at a community ... [snip!] ... elementary education. My original desired major was molecular biology until I realized there was a lot of calculus.   "

The word biology just makes me shudder lol. There are some good schools in Wisconsin....I wouldve went to Marquette if they didnt give me such a hard time with the admissions process.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:</b>" OMG I didnt know you were married now...congrats!"</blockquote>


Hah, thank you! Just since last month. Unfortunately the marriage didn't start off well at all. I knew we'd have our problems and challenges, but I was hoping to have at least a few weeks of wedded bliss. :/

My DH and I started dating when I was 19, we got pregnant 4 months in and didn't get married until I was 23. I don't think i settled at all, but I do wish we could have had more time to just be a young couple together, travel make plans etc, before we started having kids. I think we were limited as a couple by having kids young.
But as far as he and I together go, I definitely didn't settle. He makes me a better person, he the most supportive partner a person could ask for and he continues to be my best friend. We've been together 7 1/2 years and married 3 1/2 and I still get butterflies when I see his name come up on my caller ID. I'm lucky to have found him young.

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" The word biology just makes me shudder lol. There are some good schools in Wisconsin....I wouldve went to Marquette if they didnt give me such a hard time with the admissions process."

Biology on a molecular level is fascinating. I wanted to work in pharmaceutical research but math just isn't my strong point so I've decided I'd rather just teach little kids. It may not pay well but there are plenty of other rewards to teaching. I get a lot of joy from watching kids learn.

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Can you elaborate a little bit? What are things you would have liked to do or things you feel you shouldve done (looking back) prior to getting married?"

I think we should have spent more time as just gf/bf or even as fiances before actually tying the knot. Just to give ourselves some more time to build that a stronger foundation. Foundation is everything.

Quoting J u l i a .:" I don't think so at all and I wouldn't trade it for the world.. I'm not married but i've been in a long ... [snip!] ... to be single lmfao. Going out on dates and mingling with different guys would be so out of place, and awkward for me hahaha. "

  Me too. I've been with M since I was 16. I don't know how dating goes or anything like that.

Quoting Saffy Sly:" Biology on a molecular level is fascinating. I wanted to work in pharmaceutical research but math just ... [snip!] ... kids. It may not pay well but there are plenty of other rewards to teaching. I get a lot of joy from watching kids learn."

Same here. Im thinking about going into school social work. Doing IEPs and just overall helping kids with issues outside of school adjust and function in the classroom setting.

Quoting kr.r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:</b>" OMG I didnt know you were married ... [snip!] ... well at all. I knew we'd have our problems and challenges, but I was hoping to have at least a few weeks of wedded bliss. :/"

Oh hun=(...yeah I hear marriage is no walk in the park by any means. I hope the issues you guys are having becomes easier.

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Or did you? If you got married between the ages of 18-25 did you come to the realization that you "settled" ... [snip!] ... "the one"? (I said married, but if you have been in a long-term relationship between those ages I'd like your input as well)."

Can't speak for myself, but my mom sure did. She got married at 21.

I'd say for the vast majority of people, it is best to wait in their twenties and when they are finished with all of their education and know what they want out of life. At 18...21...most people don't know what is they want, and people change so much over time.

That said, there are exceptions to the rule.

I know I did. My ex and I were kids and instead of us growing together as a couple, we grew apart. I realized what I wanted in life, where I wanted to go, and who I wanted to be....and my ex is still in the process of figuring those things out.

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Or did you? If you got married between the ages of 18-25 did you come to the realization that you "settled" ... [snip!] ... "the one"? (I said married, but if you have been in a long-term relationship between those ages I'd like your input as well)."

Nope. I don't think I settled at all. I found the person that I was meant to be with, I didn't see any reason to wait to make everyone happy. Everyone thought I rushed things but I don't think so at all. I would have gotten married to him anyways, it was just a matter of what I felt was right compared to what everyone else thought

ive been with SO since i was 18 and now im 22 we broke up for a couple of months last year and i thought it was a waste of time but now that were back together i know hes the one!!!