re: "You limited yourself...."

I'm 24...DH and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for just over a year. I know it's early yet but I definitely don't feel like I've settled...I feel like I just happened to meet my best friend and soulmate at 22. I definitely don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. After my son's father, I was thrilled to meet a genuinely good guy.

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Nope, I don't think I settled but I do think we got married too young. He's the one for me and I'm the ... [snip!] ... I just wish we would have waited...if that makes sense. What's done is done now lol. We've been married for 5 years come June."

Can you elaborate a little bit? What are things you would have liked to do or things you feel you shouldve done (looking back) prior to getting married?

Lol @ "happy with my soldier"

No, I don't feel that I settled. I got married a few months after turning 19. Been married 8 years. We've had some hard times, but those times, and my determination to make my marriage work, just convinced me that much more that I want to be with him more than anyone.

I think what's made me even more sure in my decision is that we've waited to have children (My daughter isn't biological my DH's) and because I know the hardships and strain of raising a child, especially while being as young as I was, has put that idea off for me for a few years. But I do know he'll be an amazingly great father to our future children, just with how I've seen him with my daughter for the last 5 years!

I got married at 20 and don't think I settled at all. I was ready to marry him less than 2 weeks after we met. 13 years later, we're still mostly happy and still in love.

Quoting Legendary Yermom:" Lol @ "happy with my soldier" No, I don't feel that I settled. I got married a few months after turning ... [snip!] ... and my determination to make my marriage work, just convinced me that much more that I want to be with him more than anyone."

You phrased this way better than I did but yes this is what I imagine most young couples feel if they make it ..no we didnt settle we fought our asses off then realized no one could be smurfed up to understand us as each other lol

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" I fully agree. I became a parent and a wife at 19, definitely wasn't ready for it."

I'm raising Nora completely differently than the other girls and it's not just because I've had experience. My whole mindset has changed. I thought I was mature at 18 but I was nowhere near it. I may have been a bit more mature than my peers but not by much. I was still a selfish know-it-all teenager.

Im not married, But we have been together for 7 years in March. Livng together for 7 years in April.

I was 16 when I met him & wouldn't change it for the world, I definitely haven't settled. I got SUPER lucky!

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Can you elaborate a little bit? What are things you would have liked to do or things you feel you shouldve done (looking back) prior to getting married?"

I know this wasn't directed at me but I feel the same way so I'll explain why I feel that way.

I should have gone to school and gotten a degree. I'm starting my second semester tomorrow and I graduated high school in 2004. It's been a hell of a difficult transition. I've done it but it wasn't easy. I would have established a career. I would have purchased a house. I would have traveled. I would have enjoyed purchasing things because I want to and not because we had some extra left over after buying diapers. I would have been able to paint and decorate a nursery when I did have kids. I would have been able to give my kids a lot more than I am currently if I just would have waited a few years.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Saffy Sly:</b>" I'm raising Nora completely differently than the other girls and it's not just because I've had experience. ... [snip!] ... nowhere near it. I may have been a bit more mature than my peers but not by much. I was still a selfish know-it-all teenager."</blockquote>




My Nora is being raised differently, as well. She's more of a brat, though    
3 1/2 years between Liv and her changed a lot, though

I dont thnk i did. my and my hubby had problems early on as we got pregnant when we were quite young. or what i consider young(21) and that kinda caused problems. we worked it out though and eventually got engaged approx 6 years after dating and then we were engaged for 2 full years before we got married. We def didnt rush it, I turned 26 like 2 weeks after my wedding.

Marriage didnt limit me at all. I dont feel like I settled, i feel like I am lucky I found someone who is everything I ever wanted and vice versa. Not a day goes by that I dont think about how wonderful our situation is. (Married at 19, 6 year anniversary is in june)

I don't think so at all and I wouldn't trade it for the world..
I'm not married but i've been in a long term relationship for almost 5 years.. I got my beautiful son out of it and i wouldn't have it any other way.

A lot of people ask me if I miss being single to be honest i've been with my boyfriend for so long idek HOW to be single lmfao. Going out on dates and mingling with different guys would be so out of place, and awkward for me hahaha.

Quoting Saffy Sly:" I know this wasn't directed at me but I feel the same way so I'll explain why I feel that way. I should ... [snip!] ... I did have kids. I would have been able to give my kids a lot more than I am currently if I just would have waited a few years."

I feel exactly the same way. Only I still haven't gone back to school like I want.

Quoting Saffy Sly:" I know this wasn't directed at me but I feel the same way so I'll explain why I feel that way. I should ... [snip!] ... I did have kids. I would have been able to give my kids a lot more than I am currently if I just would have waited a few years."

Thats completely understandable....CONGRATS ON GOING TO SCHOOL!!! Have you decided on a major yet?