Would you stay with someone

Who was basically so driven and only focused on his career?

Someone who basically says that you and your kids have to sacrifice so he can get to where he wants to be?

Someone who says they are willing to sacrifice all the time needed away from his family to get to what he deems as "success"?

Someone who is so engulfed into his career that he is emotionally disconnected to his wife and kids?

Someone who is saying "I am not willing to realign my goals, but you will have to in order for things to work out"

You feel distant, emotionally disconnected, hes always stressed/angry, he gives a ton financially but very little emotionally....

Almost as thought he is committed to you but the clause is that you have to be "on board" with his career goals.

Thoughts? Opinions?

It depends on the strength of the relationship.

My husband is very much so career driven, and works a lot. I just cherish the time he is home.

He mainly does it to make sure we as a family, have everything we need.

I guess I just kinda got use to it.

Well as I'm not too keen on breaking my family apart or all divorce happy, I would say I would possibly consider leaving. There are ways to be career driven without abandoning your family. My SO is career driven. He works his ass off in hopes of getting to te career he wants. But he does not in any way sacrifice us.

I wouldn't have married or had children with someone I wasn't on the same page with in the first place.

Nope! I'm an emotional person and I need time and attention from my husband! I would rather live paycheck to paycheck then be financially stable and have no emotional support.....

I think it depends. What's the sole purpose of this career? Is it to provide for the family, or for his personal gain/happiness? Because my husband has to sacrifice things so that I can continue school for my career choice. But I am doing it so that we will have a greater income, and so that we can provide a better life for our LO(s). So, I would hope that DH wouldn't leave me at this time because I am focused on that and he has to make some sacrifices. However, the emotionally disconnect would be a concern for me.

He says that he needs to better himself and become more polished so he said during the off season (he does minimal work during this time) which is from Sept-Jan he is going to lock himself in the basement and read 24/7. He said "This is what I AM GOING TO DO". He said in the long run it will benefit the family. I mean, where does it stop? It is already taking a huge emotional toll on my 4yo son. He longs so badly for an emotional connection with his dad. There is a difference between being present and being PRESENT. He came home from work the other night and LO was talking to him and hes so burnt out that he fell asleep on him. That must hurt to a little kid...

Quoting melindapple:" I think it depends. What's the sole purpose of this career? Is it to provide for the family, or for his ... [snip!] ... because I am focused on that and he has to make some sacrifices. However, the emotionally disconnect would be a concern for me."

He is the sole provider so that I can stay home with the kids...

His career is to provide but its also a happiness thing for him as well. He loves doing what he does. He says that if he werent doing it then he wouldnt feel "alive"..

I would be in a relationship with that type before I would with a deadbeat with no goals. Ideally neither though.

I couldn't be with someone who only wanted to work, and wanted nothing to do with our kids. My husband works 6 out of 7 days of the week, and loves his job. That being said he is also very into his daughters, and me as well. On Sundays, his only day off, he spends it with us.

Quoting Amelia Margaret:" I would be in a relationship with that type before I would with a deadbeat with no goals. Ideally neither though."

Would a better scenario be to split up the family, divorce, and share the children?

Quoting Clk:" I couldn't be with someone who only wanted to work, and wanted nothing to do with our kids. My husband ... [snip!] ... job. That being said he is also very into his daughters, and me as well. On Sundays, his only day off, he spends it with us."

He will tussle around with our son sometimes, and hold the baby and change her, but he works 90% of the time. We are always on not so good terms. I feel resentful, burdened, and angry at him.

He also takes Sundays off but he is still not HERE. Hes here physically but hes always thinking about and doing work related things. I can't remember the last time me and him have a convocation about something not work related and if we do he does not seem interested and will change the subject....

I don't know he says that this is who he is..

I often ask myself "WHAT ABOUT ME"... HELLO I AM HERE TOO! I am so burdened with the kids all the time I don't even know what my dreams and goals are in life..

Quoting Conservative MAMA:" Would a better scenario be to split up the family, divorce, and share the children?"

It depends on too many things for me to answer, like how unhappy are you, would he be willing to get marriage counseling. which would be the better scenario for the kids etc.

I'm not sure. Because I am the person who has everyone make sacrifices for my career... soooooo, I would hope that my SO wouldn't leave me because I am goal driven. I think that everyone should make sacrifices because I work hard, and one day it will all pay off.