Holy controlling SO, Batman!

I have a friend who I go out with her and her SO a good bit. Well lately I realized that she and I never hang out just us together. So I planned on going to Anderson this afternoon to go shopping an stuff. Maybe see a movie too.
I called my friend last night and asked her her plans for today. She said she was doing nothing and her SO had to work all day. So I invited her to go with me.
She said no, but it sounded really fun and she wished she could. So I asked her why not and she said that she never goes out anywhere without her SO.
I jokingly said "Surely you go to the grocery store and places like that by yourself" and she said no, she doesn't.
I can't wrap my head around not having time out for yourself to do something fun away from your SO. I think he is controlling or something.
I sent her a group text message one night and she called me saying to never do that again because her SO got pissed at her and accused her that the texts were from guys.
I'm a little irked about the whole situation. I don't mind that she's not coming, but it's the whole her not going anywhere without her SO is what bugs me.

Does this sound controlling to you or does my friend just sound clingy? She's been with her SO for 4 1/2 years.

I typically don't go many places without my DH. Like grocery store, doctor's office, etc.

But when it comes to hanging out with my friends I go alone.

Sounds controlling because he tried to accuse her of a dude texting her. So it doesn't sound like she is clingy, sounds like he is the problem.

He sounds controlling and is probably cheating on her, from the sounds of things.

Sounds really fishy to me...

It sounds like he is controlling and likes to keep her close.

I don't understand people that don't do anything without SO either. Like going to the store, running errands, etc. I mean do you really need to be with them at all times?

Yes that is the definintion of controlling. Yikes.

It sounds controlling, based on the text message thing...

I had an ex like that. I couldn't even go to the mall with my girlfriends without him texting/calling me nonstop and freaking out. I stayed with him for a year, and looking back, I have no idea why. It's sad because as her friend, you can't really do much about it  

Controlling as smurf. That's so crappy. People thought my SO is controlling.. Him and I laughed. He is the first person to say that I do what I want, when I want. Lol. Just offer that if she needs to talk you're there. She may not be ready to hear that.

idk...i know i don't go many places without my SO. not because he says i'm not allowed or anything, just because that's just how it usually plays out.

Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:" idk...i know i don't go many places without my SO. not because he says i'm not allowed or anything, just because that's just how it usually plays out. "

I don't either, but mostly because I hate driving, haha. But if a friend called and invited me out for a girl's day I wouldn't say no just because DH couldn't go. He encourages me to go out and do things with my friends and have time to myself.

Its healthy to have time away. She must be miserable not being 'allowed' to go out with you alone 
He is probably worried that she will meet guys or whatever which may be a reflection of what he is doing or his insecurities.

Quoting Lizplustwo:" I don't either, but mostly because I hate driving, haha. But if a friend called and invited me out for ... [snip!] ... wouldn't say no just because DH couldn't go. He encourages me to go out and do things with my friends and have time to myself."

i can't drive. no license. haha so that's one reason i'm usually with SO.

i don't really have friends either...and the one i do have has 2 jobs. so she's not around a lot.

but yeah if SO was gone, i would leave. no point sitting at home bored.

I think it would be one thing if she didn't want to go somewhere without him, but based on what you said it sounded like she wanted to go but thought he would disapprove. So yes that is extremely controlling.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lizplustwo:</b>" I don't either, but mostly because I hate driving, haha. But if a friend called and invited me out for ... [snip!] ... wouldn't say no just because DH couldn't go. He encourages me to go out and do things with my friends and have time to myself."</blockquote>




I could understand her hating to drive, because I have another friend who goes nowhere without her SO because she refuses to drive, but she goes out with me because I drive.
The friend in the OP doesn't mind driving. She drives everywhere when her, her SO, and I go out. I even offered to drive today to make it easier on her, but no.