So let's say you were TTC for your 2nd child, wanting only to have a second child, not more, at the time. And then you found out you were pregnant with twins.
Lets also say that you had a family member who was great, they were very financially responsible, loving, etc etc. But they couldn't have a child of their own. They were going to pay a best friend to have a child for them when the time came.
However, you considered maybe giving them one of your twins....when you eventually gave birth to the babies, would you be able to do it? <<That's the poll question.
Another question I am curious to see how people respond is, later down the road you all get together for family functions, or you see them post pictures, etc on FB of the 2nd twin .....would you feel regret? Or would you be happy and honored knowing you were able to give a family member a child they wouldn't have otherwise ever been able to have? Would you always feel deep down that the child was yours or accept that you basically gave the child up to someone else?

I couldn't do it. Twins have a special bond and I don't think I could split them up.

Quoting lolajessup:" I couldn't do it. Twins have a special bond and I don't think I could split them up."

Yeah that's what I was thinking too.

Um, hell no. Not only could I give one of my children away like that, but that's some parent trap boosmurf an that could smurf some twins up.

I would never be able to give up a child, putting a child up for adoption is not for me. Not to mention it would be cruel to the kids that you picked one over the other.

Definitely not. How could you choose which one of your babies to give up?

No way. The only way I might is if they lived in town and we could get together on a regular basis so the twins could have more of a bond. They might relate as cousins, but it would be better than no relationship at all.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" I couldn't do it. Twins have a special bond and I don't think I could split them up."</blockquote>




This exactly.
I just couldn't do it...
But if a family member asked me to have a child for then I think I could.

Nope. But, that's me and I think that's a situation id not like to encounter

I don't think I could do it unless it was a VERY open adoption and the twins could see and play with each other daily... and that is almost impossible because I'd be working around my friend's schedule and life happens...

So no.

**And note I am not pregnant with twins, lol. This was just something I was thinking about because of something my SIL said.

No, and you shouldn't do it. My cousin has twin boys and she was told to have them sleep in the same crib for the first 6 months. they are so accustomed to being together.

As they got older, they'd have a mess of questions I wouldn't want to answer. They'd know they're twins. That twin bond is true and VERY strong.

I like all of the answers ladies, thanks!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Krystle ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" I couldn't do it. Twins have a special bond ... [snip!] ... This exactly. I just couldn't do it... But if a family member asked me to have a child for then I think I could."</blockquote>


Yes for sure that. If I was preg specifically FOR someone else and knew that going in it'd be totally diff.