re: I am getting SCARED

Quoting Roe23:" The IV was, by far, the worst part of my first labour. I'm scared of needles so I researched how to avoid them and discovered something wonderful  ."

ohhhh please share! i may need this info in the future! lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting Roe23:</b>" The IV was, by far, the worst part of my first labour. I'm scared of needles so I researched how to avoid them and discovered something wonderful  ."</blockquote>




I hated getting the IV. Doesn't help the woman doing it had no clue what she was doing. She messed up so bad they had to go get someone else and move to my other hand. The only reason I got one was because I was GBS+.

Quoting Roe23:" The IV was, by far, the worst part of my first labour. I'm scared of needles so I researched how to avoid them and discovered something wonderful  ."

I did hemlock in hospital not too bad. I hate needles too lol.

Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:" ohhhh please share! i may need this info in the future! lol"

I just mean experiencing a natural childbirth. If I hadn't been scared of needles (so scared that I went to a psychologist for help, years ago), I might not have looking into anything beyond finding and OB, going to the hospital when labour started and getting an epidural. I'm sure it would have been fine, but it would have been very different from what I experienced.

My first was induced, but without pain medication. It was difficult at times, I relied heavily on my doula, she was my rock. But when it was done, I couldn't believe how easy it had been, how I must have been very lucky. I almost didn't want to have another child because I didn't think there was any way I could be that lucky again.

The second was almost completely spontaneous (I did have a couple of stretch and sweeps because I wanted to try to avoid being induced again). I had to go to the hospital earlier in the day for testing but I didn't want to stay, even though I thought I was likely in active labour (one minute contractions, every 5 minutes), I was also trying to hide them while anyone, other then my husband, was around. We ended up going to a hotel near by (after my first contraction in the car, I didn't want to go home, 30 - 40 minutes away). My husband went out to get some things I had requested while I laboured in the hotel room. The contractions felt good, they felt sexual and powerful. When I decided that I wanted a little help with them, we went back to the hospital to meet my midwife and doula. Within two hours my son was born. I felt so powerful, like I could do anything! I didn't even have time for an IV (GBS+, but the water didn't break until within 30 minutes of the birth and I didn't have any warning signs, my son was completely fine).

If I had gone to the hospital earlier (or if my midwives had come to my house for a homebirth), I would have had an IV. I wasn't looking forward to that, but I was much more scared of the epidural (practically an IV (I know, not in the vein) but the back, so much worse!).

Quoting Roe23:" I just mean experiencing a natural childbirth. If I hadn't been scared of needles (so scared that I ... [snip!] ... the water didn't break until within 30 minutes of the birth and I didn't have any warning signs, my son was completely fine)."

sounds like a wodnerful experience!

i was lucky with my labor..well in some ways. i had back labor, and they gave me pitocin, which sucked majorly. other than that though it was awesome. sure it hurt like hell, but it was sooooo worth it.


oh and when you said you felt sexual it reminded me of this show i watched. i think it was Strange Sex. a woman on there actually had an orgasm during delivery! the drs on there said it's totally possible and it happens more often than people think.

it may be the worst pain you'll ever feel BUT it honestly doesn't suck because in the end you get the best prize ever...I'm so excited for labor just for the fact that I'll be able to finally KNOW it's the end of the pregnancy and the beginning of having a brand new baby again...

Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:" sounds like a wodnerful experience! i was lucky with my labor..well in some ways. i had back labor, ... [snip!] ... had an orgasm during delivery! the drs on there said it's totally possible and it happens more often than people think."

I think I might have had an orgasm if I had felt a little more comfortable in my surroundings (my midwife and doula gave myself and my husband privacy, but we were still in a washroom of a hospital room).

all i can say is go with the flow. no matter what anyone says. nobody can describe what it feels like lol.

Quoting shelbylynn [29 WEEKS!]:" So I'm assuming you would recommend a birthing class? The one we have here is almost 200$ and I'm willing to pay if it will be worth it in the end. It's a 2 day program that lasts about 10 hours "

it didn't help me at all. that much pain the LAST thing on my mind was breathing exercises lol.

Quoting Roe23:" I think I might have had an orgasm if I had felt a little more comfortable in my surroundings (my midwife ... [snip!] ... my surroundings (my midwife and doula gave myself and my husband privacy, but we were still in a washroom of a hospital room)."

lucky lucky! feeling good while in soooo much pain.

Quoting Heather ♥:" it didn't help me at all. that much pain the LAST thing on my mind was breathing exercises lol."

Same here!!

We didn't talk about breathing at the childbirth class I took. We did, however, talk about ways to cope, positions to try (and had a handout) and what has worked for us with pain in the past.

The class got me thinking about different ways I have coped. I realized that I get more upset with the idea of an injury ("what if it's broken? Eww, that's gross" and then anxiety) then with the pain itself. I also have used biofeedback techniques with headaches (I sometimes 'look' at the pain and this dulls it), I don't think I used this during childbirth, but it did make me feel a lot more confident.

Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:" lucky lucky! feeling good while in soooo much pain. "

I didn't find the dilating contractions to be particularly painful (except when I was lying down or strapped into the car), but they were very, very intense and powerful. I had to relax my body and just go with it. If I fought it, it was painful too.

OP, when you do experience a contraction that overpowers you, try to remember that it will end, the cycle of contractions starting, ending and the break is so much easier to deal with then pain from an injury.

I had some chronic pain during my first pregnancy (for several weeks, maybe two months) and I was really doubting my ability to deal with labour if I was having a difficult time with constant, yet fairly mild (most of the time) pain. They are so different.

Prepare? Eh no way you can prepare really. Just mentally if you can accept this will be the most painful experience in your whole entire life. Walk! Stay mobile for as long as you can. It helps speed things along. I walked for so long that eventually the pain was unbearable and I couldn't stand anymore. I had to literally slide against the wall slowly in between contractions. But boy did it help! Once you are in the pain, you won't be thinking about anything but let's get the baby out and make the pain go away. Keep a fan going for fresh air as my labor room was the size of a janitors closet. I had back labor too and the nurses have certain massages they can do and it really helps a lot!! Yoga ball. I brought a belt and just gripped onto it for hours. It helped   I'm due in July and not looking forward to doing it again. But so damn worth it! Good luck!