Quoting Red Bottom:" You can't really complain that he never sees them and then tell him that he can't spend more time with ... [snip!] ... of depressed people are parents and frankly, you're not going to court for the past, you're going to court for the future. "
I get what you're saying. However, I wasn't complaining that he's not in their lives I was mentioning it as something that may or may not help in court. I've heard people say witnesses, texts, emails matter in court and I've heard otherwise. I'm sure a lawyer will help me that
I didn't literally say "no way buddy! not happening" to his idea. I said "Ex, I don't think it's in the best interest. If you want to be involved more with them, maybe consider moving closer or making some changes for their safety. Unfortunately every other week is neither logical (my son starts school this year) nor best for them." Like I said, he doesn't actually have a new-found interest in them. Commonly, he says this when he has a new girlfriend or his grandmother has been on his ass to fight me for custody. The past 2 years, he's done nothing to make it happen. He's couch surfed & blown his money on alcohol/drugs, video games & tattoo stuff. Which he is still doing now. I do not think anytime in the near future he'll be getting a house, like I said in my original post. I'm considering getting sole custody & a safety-focused parenting plan for the future ;)