Option A defenetely.

It's hard both ways but at least my children would know that they had a dad who loved them so much.

Quoting K. P. Walsh:" This isn't so much a debate topic as it just a discussion topic.. Just a hypothetical question for you ... [snip!] ... think would be a harder situation to cope with, for you personally, on your own as a mother? Just.. some food for thought. "

Option A all the way. I have a father who chooses not to be in my life or the lives of my brothers and that brings a lot of pain to my mother. Having a dead father is better than having a deadbeat father in my book.