How do I know If my Boyfriends cheating?

My boyfriend has cheated twice before. I found out all within the same week and it had all happened within the beginning of our relationship so I forgave him and we moved on. The only way I found out about it though is cause I got this gut feeling he was cheating so I snooped and found a lot of things. I've always been a little paranoid, but that's me so I ignore it, but lately I'm getting that same gut feeling and it's agitating. I feel like he's cheating again, but I can't find anything, and that's the issue. Since I found out before he's been so cautious about everything. And he's the type of person that once he does something wrong he never does it wrong again, so he'd be better about deleting his stuff this time. So, it's so difficult. But I feel like there's something he's hiding from me an I just don't know what an d it's driving me crazy! I've been with him 2 years, so I know when something is up and just... Something is happening and I just don't know what. I'm also paranoid cause we are getting married in Dec. and I feel like he's scared and he wants to get out there more instead of being tied down, so he's going to go do something with someone else, but I don't know.  

crazy thought....talk to him? approach it lightly of course. But the only way to know for sure is to ask.

Just leave him if you can't trust him. If he's that worried about sneaking around he's not worth being with.

Quoting norah's.momma✿:" Just leave him if you can't trust him. If he's that worried about sneaking around he's not worth being with."

 

You need to talk to him. This kind of suspicion will tear you apart in the end even if he isn't cheating. You need to put your cards on the table and let him know how you feel. If he was cheating would you try and make it work again? I'm wondering if you want to know so you can fix things or find closure. If you need closure and have to know he is cheating its probably not worth staying in a relationship but if you want to fix things and stop his cheating (not the way I would go at all btw!) then be honest.

Maybe talk to him?

Personally I wouldn't be planning to marry someone I can't trust much less be with them period. And clearly you can't trust him.

Leave. A relationship with no trust is nothing.

Quoting Brandi Eastman:" crazy thought....talk to him? approach it lightly of course. But the only way to know for sure is to ask."

I have talked to him, but he always just says no he's not and there's nothing to worry about, but he said the last 2 times repeatedly and when he cheated before and I found out through messages and he tried to say they were from before we got together and that Facebook had "changed the dates" on the computer. Which is bull smurf. So he lies, he lies about a lot of things and that makes things difficult.

Quoting aspen.keesler2013:" I have talked to him, but he always just says no he's not and there's nothing to worry about, but he ... [snip!] ... the dates" on the computer. Which is bull smurf. So he lies, he lies about a lot of things and that makes things difficult."

If you can't trust him, then leave.
You'll be a lot happier alone than worry what he's doing behind your back.

<blockquote><b>Quoting aspen.keesler2013:</b>" I have talked to him, but he always just says no he's not and there's nothing to worry about, but he ... [snip!] ... the dates" on the computer. Which is bull smurf. So he lies, he lies about a lot of things and that makes things difficult."</blockquote>




Again, leave. Sounds like a douche.

Quoting *Mary Moon*:" You need to talk to him. This kind of suspicion will tear you apart in the end even if he isn't cheating. ... [snip!] ... in a relationship but if you want to fix things and stop his cheating (not the way I would go at all btw!) then be honest."

It's starting too. We've been through so much together though. Somtimes I want to just leave, but I just.. I don't know. 2 years is a long time to just waste and we've lost a baby together and just so much has happened I don't know how to deal with it.

Quoting £egendary £ex:" <blockquote><b>Quoting aspen.keesler2013:</b>" I have talked to him, but he always ... [snip!] ... he lies about a lot of things and that makes things difficult."</blockquote> Again, leave. Sounds like a douche."

2 years though. :/

Quoting £egendary £ex:" <blockquote><b>Quoting aspen.keesler2013:</b>" I have talked to him, but he always ... [snip!] ... he lies about a lot of things and that makes things difficult."</blockquote> Again, leave. Sounds like a douche."

2 years though. :/

Quoting aspen.keesler2013:" It's starting too. We've been through so much together though. Somtimes I want to just leave, but I ... [snip!] ... is a long time to just waste and we've lost a baby together and just so much has happened I don't know how to deal with it."

If you're not happy even after 2 years then leave. It doesn't matter how long you've been together. If you can't trust him and are obviously not happy then whats the point of wasting more time on the relationship?

Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" If you can't trust him, then leave. You'll be a lot happier alone than worry what he's doing behind your back."

I know. I just ugh, I'm so stupid sometimes. I was going to leave him when I found out the first time, but cause I'm dumb I gave him a 2nd chance and now this is where it's gotten me... :/