Quoting !!Katie!!:" Hmmmm....well, the part about his life being worthless and stressful - that's classic depression talk. ... [snip!] ... understanding and willing to help....it's a very hard thing to deal with, and a lot of people don't understand. Good for you."
He's always been all over the place, and I've often told him I thought he was bi-polar (and oddly enough, a psyhic I seen once flat out, out of know where, asked me if he was. I was strange lol)
Things got so much worse after I had our second son. Our first was 27 months and going through his autism diagnosis at the time.
I've been tempted to leave more than once, but I know this isn't who he is. I think he's afraid of getting a confirmed dx because he doesn't want it to "follow him", on insurance applications, work, etc.