Just read a blog that made me think of this.

I didn't for months, with either. I cared for their well being, but didn't feel that special bond and felt that they belonged to someone else.

There wasn't any special moment after birth. Just a strange (cute) baby I didn't know, and it was my job to take care of them.

I had a c-section so I didn't get the chance to hold him right after he was born or anything. My husband was the first one to hold him. Plus, he was premature so he spent the first night in the nursery.

I was in so much pain the first week after my c-section that I couldn't do anything but sleep.

He's a month old now and we are slowly building our bond.

I still don't have the kind of bond with my second daughter that I have with my other 3.

I bonded immediately and couldn't help but cry because it was such an overwhelming sense of love. Hoping it's the same with this one!

Yes with both.

I bonded way more quickly with my first than my second. The bond is still much stronger between my son & I than my daughter & I.

Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" I had a c-section so I didn't get the chance to hold him right after he was born or anything. My husband ... [snip!] ... week after my c-section that I couldn't do anything but sleep. He's a month old now and we are slowly building our bond."

I had two drug free births and still didn't bond.

It is really normal and people tend to think there is something wrong with them or something. So I figured I would post this so maybe a couple people who see it could stop feeling guilty or pressured to feel a bond that isn't there yet.

I did. Especially with my second. They placed him on my boob immediately.

I definitely know what you mean by feeling like they aren't your baby. I think I'm in such disbelief that I have such a cute, healthy baby that...I feel like he's not mine. But we're working on it..

Yes I did. I didn't get to hold DD for the first hour because the doctor had tough time pulling out the placenta (it didn't detac from my uterus in its own). They say the.first.hour.or.so is. The best time.to bond but I bonded immediately

I didn't bond with my first born for awhile. I also did not get to hold him very much the first few days after he was born. He had a lot of complications. He has Duchenne's Muscular Dystrophy.
I bonded immediately with both of my girls though. I was also able to hold them, fed them and love on them right away. I really think that makes a big difference.

Bonded right away with my daughter...my first born. Still don't feel as strong of a bond with my son. I think because they are only 11 months apart and my son was in NICU for first 10 days.

With my first, I didn't bond right away, I loved the feeling of her kicking in mah belleh, but when she came out, it was like I was taking care of someone else's kid. I think I finally started to really feel like she was mine at about 6 months old. My youngest is 2 months old now, and It only took a couple weeks to become attached to her

I did faster with my younger three. was it because I breast fed them? maybe. was it because I wasn't a dumb teenager when I gave birth to them like I was with my first born? possibly. hard to say, but I bonded faster and deeper with my youngest three

My third I remember looking down at her after my husband and the nurses had left me, and I thought who are you, and why are you here? I've had two traumatic births, my first I clung to my baby and bonded so quickly even though she was in NICU for her first week. But last time, every time I looked at her I was reminded of her birth and it just ruined everything  
I love her with everything in me now, but it was a rough year getting there.