Quoting CrAsH1988:" With my first, I didn't bond right away, I loved the feeling of her kicking in mah belleh, but when she ... [snip!] ... she was mine at about 6 months old. My youngest is 2 months old now, and It only took a couple weeks to become attached to her"

That was how I felt, I couldn't comprehend that this was the same baby that I had become attached to in my belly. There was a definite detachment.

I had an emergency c-sec and had to be knocked out so i didn't get to see her until 2 or so hours after she was born. They placed her in my arms as soon as I woke up and was still a little loopy from being out but we bonded immediately.

I bonded right away with my second, my first it was a few weeks, maybe a month. With my first I was soooo tired from lack of iron that I just couldn't function. And everyone had said I would have a girl, and had myself convinced it would be a girl, and then there was this boy..... I spent the first two weeks calling him her/she. lol

My second, I knew was going to be my last, so I really enjoyed the pregnancy, taking my time to relish each kick. I had rushed through everything with my first, just wanting the baby here already. I think that had a lot to do with why I bonded sooner with baby #2.

I am so thankful that I'm not the only person going through this i feel soo bad that i don't have the same strong bond that i have with my son as with my one month old daughter it's weird i bonded with my son soo fast it seemed like before hisirth but with my daughter it's just not the same

My daughter will be 8 in 9 days, and I feel as though our bond is breaking. We fight constantly, and she has the worst attitude (hoping its just an age thing) I think it could also be coz we are so much alike. But I have such a close bond with both my sons. The oldest will be 3 in march, and LO is only 2 weeks old, and my love for them I feel is so much stronger then the love I feel for my daughter....not that I love her any less, it's just a different kind of love. I feel terrible though for feeling like this, and think it makes me a horrible mother  

Quoting J&T+3:" My daughter will be 8 in 9 days, and I feel as though our bond is breaking. We fight constantly, and ... [snip!] ... it's just a different kind of love. I feel terrible though for feeling like this, and think it makes me a horrible mother  "

I am like a broken record recommending this book, lol, but I love How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk. Maybe you could see if it could help you guys out?

I definitely had this ' oh my God hello baby I love you so much' moment right when she was born, and in the hospital it was strange to have her but I felt connected to her. it was after we went home to the in laws' where I started to feel detached and like I was a wet nurse for their baby.
now I feel much better about our relationship.

I had to be knocked out for a csection, so when I came out of anesthesia, I was really out of it. I remember crying because I wanted so desperately to hold my baby but I was just too loopy. Finally I felt comfortable and I held her, she wanted to feed, so I latched her and immediately fell in love.

I've had others comment on how strong our attachment is. I'm scared to have another in fear that we won't have this same bond.

Sadly no, not at first. My dd just turned 3 months and i feel as if our bond is now stronger than ever!  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" I am like a broken record recommending this book, lol, but I love How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk. Maybe you could see if it could help you guys out?"</blockquote>



Thanks for the recommendation. Il have to look into it. I have to do something soon, before she starts hating me