bed time and sleep

someone please help!  



our daughter is 4...

this has been a problem for a long time....we were really great when we moved our daughter to the big bed over a year ago about having her go to bed on her own, we said goodnight tucked her in and she slept. then she began to take over an hour sometimes 2 to fall asleep, and we could hear her on the monitor playing, reading, doing whatever...so we couldnt sleep until we knew she was asleep , nor could we have sex or anything, and that went on forever so then we started to stay with her until she fell asleep
now we are stuck laying with her every night until she goes to bed
but sometimes like tonight, 2 hrs go by and she still doesnt go to sleep
not to mention the fact that she wakes up EVERY night at least once and comes in our room ....still dont know why....i've tried everything, moving her bed, changing sounds, adding sounds, changing sheets, etc etc

What time are you putting her to bed?

her bedtime is always between 7:30-9pm...it depends on whats going on that night with the kids (we have a 9 month old too)

Does she nap?

she doesnt nap, we took naps away almost 2 years ago because she wouldnt go to sleep- this is where it all began

Quoting JackieCamps:" her bedtime is always between 7:30-9pm...it depends on whats going on that night with the kids (we have a 9 month old too)"

Hm. 7:30 seems a bit early IMO, especially if she naps.

do you have a routine? I would do bath time, story or movie, brush teeth and then bed. maybe a snack before hand. but try and keep it consistent every day.

also, just stop laying with her. tell her she's a big girl and you all have your own bed, that's hers, and it's only for her to sleep.

we've had a routine since she was 2.... bath, teeth, book, bed

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" Hm. 7:30 seems a bit early IMO, especially if she naps. do you have a routine? I would do bath time, ... [snip!] ... stop laying with her. tell her she's a big girl and you all have your own bed, that's hers, and it's only for her to sleep."

 
7:30-9 is pretty big range, maybe try to narrow that down.
Maybe she is overly tired? dd is younger, but she has a hard time at bedtime if she didn't take her hap.

well, unfortunately naps are not gonna happen, we've tried... so what else should i do? is there like something she can eat or dirnk, like warm milk you think?

What time dies she wake up?

A kid that's not tired isn't going to sleep. If you let her stay up an extra hour would she fall asleep faster?

My DD is 4, and she tried to stay up in bed after we put her to bed.

What do you do when you hear her playing/reading etc?

We had to just tell her "Hailee, go to sleep. It's bedtime, close your eyes." After doing that a couple of times she gave up and went to bed.

Quoting Chim Richalds:" What time dies she wake up? A kid that's not tired isn't going to sleep. If you let her stay up an extra hour would she fall asleep faster?"

sometimes....but not until like 10...i cant lose out on all my kid free time like that lol ...its so late

Quoting [♥]Mrs. Morgan:" My DD is 4, and she tried to stay up in bed after we put her to bed. What do you do when you hear her ... [snip!] ... tell her "Hailee, go to sleep. It's bedtime, close your eyes." After doing that a couple of times she gave up and went to bed."

yeah macayla is very difficult, she will come out of her room constantly

Quoting JackieCamps:" sometimes....but not until like 10...i cant lose out on all my kid free time like that lol ...its so late"

Well then you can go the other way and wake her up earlier. You cant just put her in bed and expect her to sleep cuz you need alone time.

Quoting Chim Richalds:" Well then you can go the other way and wake her up earlier. You cant just put her in bed and expect her to sleep cuz you need alone time."

yeah my 4 year old goes to bed at 8:30-9 and by the time he stalls, water, need to pee again, etc. it's 9:30. we just go to bed at like 11 so we can have our alone time.