Quoting speaktruth2powr:" I had joint legal & physical custody of my daughter and people assumed I did something wrong or I was unfit in some way. It was incredibly upsetting to me."
This is the situation closest to what I am going through. I am about to share custody officially on the books with my ex. And it is because of opposing work schedules. My mom is making it seem like sharing with him is going to have people talk. She says I should take her and skip the state/never let him see her like she did to my alcoholic dad. But hers and my situation are different. My daughter's father isn't on drugs and is a fit enough parent, considering I don't like him.
She's saying giving him equal parenting rights is opening the door for me to never see her again. That I'm a smurf mom for not taking her all to myself. It's upsetting.