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You have to stop giving a smurf about things you can't change.

Why do you care so much? Being born via c-section and being formula fed contributed to your bad upbringing? That is hilar. BFing is a choice. You chose to do it and some choose not to. Its really no one's business or place to judge them. There are a lot of things that will make someone a bad parent. Giving them formula isn't one of them.

I confused as to why you being born by c-section and not breastfed contributed to your "rough upbringing"....

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" I confused as to why you being born by c-section and not breastfed contributed to your "rough upbringing"...."

lmfao

WEther somebody breastfeeds or not doesn't make them a bad mother. Just like them having a natural birth/medicated birth/ or c-section doesn't make them a bad mother.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" You have to stop giving a smurf about things you can't change."</blockquote>

  Be a good mom and stop caring about what others do. Not breast feeding doesn't make you a bad mom. I know someone who I think is a terrible mom and I feel sorry for her kids. She sounds a lot like how your mom was, but I can't change her.

Worry about your choice, not others.

Honestly, I think you're only a "bad" mother when you're being abusive (inculding mentally, emotionally, and verbally, not just physically), or neglectful, or just are pretty much completely detached from your child.

Everything else is a matter of choice. Some things are better, some things are "eh", but as long as the child is thriving emotionally and physically and is loved, that's all that matters.

Like, I think not BFing because you don't want to ruin your boobs is a very stupid reason not to. But, the child is getting fed somehow and that's what matters. Getting a C-section is something I would never willingly do, but I have nothing against a mother who chooses to get one. If the baby is born safely, that's what matters.

I think it makes you a "bad mother" for judging a persons choices. Breasfeeding is great, formula is great, a baby being fed is what matters.


And who cares if you came via c section lol?

Quoting Lucas'Mama:" Stemming from another post... I had a rough upbringing. I was born via c-sec, wasn't breast fed, was ... [snip!] ... So I'm sorry if this offends anyone, I'm genuinely curious as a woman who is terrified that she'll turn into her mother lol"

yea wording didnt quite get out right here but I think I understand what you are trying to say....
your a wonderful and caring mom who does more than the average mom does now by ebf and etc.
no its not neglect abuse for them to be selfish because that is the right they have
and depending on the life they live it may not be selfish
However not giving your kid food or meeting their needs thats neglect
hurting them mentally emotionally sexually or physically thats abuse
and thats as black and white as it gets hun
now a days its just some moms are more dedicated than others and some are just not moms at all they just had a baby thats all it applies to both men and women now
I think this is what you were trying to say and describe and discuss without raising a fuss

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" I confused as to why you being born by c-section and not breastfed contributed to your "rough upbringing"...."

You have no clue how emotionally scaring that is to a child!


 
OP, get a job or something. You have too much time on your hands.

I'm a little confused, but I'll try to answer as best I can. Yes, the only things I can think of atm that would make a person a bad mother would be choosing to abuse or neglect their child. Other than that it's all "different folks, different strokes." It doesn't make anyone a "bad" parent. Just my opinion.

Quoting Rain (aka Mama):" Honestly, I think you're only a "bad" mother when you're being abusive (inculding mentally, emotionally, ... [snip!] ... willingly do, but I have nothing against a mother who chooses to get one. If the baby is born safely, that's what matters."

You worded that a damn sight better than I did  

Quoting ILOVEWINE:" I think it makes you a "bad mother" for judging a persons choices. Breasfeeding is great, formula is great, a baby being fed is what matters. And who cares if you came via c section lol?"

Lol.
So judging someones parenting choices means I can't look after my kid? Right.

Quoting ILOVEWINE:" I think it makes you a "bad mother" for judging a persons choices. Breasfeeding is great, formula is great, a baby being fed is what matters. And who cares if you came via c section lol?"

I agree.

OP - Your child is 11 weeks old....get back to me when you are dealing with a toddler.