Quoting Lucas'Mama:" Stemming from another post... I had a rough upbringing. I was born via c-sec, wasn't breast fed, was ... [snip!] ... So I'm sorry if this offends anyone, I'm genuinely curious as a woman who is terrified that she'll turn into her mother lol"
yea wording didnt quite get out right here but I think I understand what you are trying to say....
your a wonderful and caring mom who does more than the average mom does now by ebf and etc.
no its not neglect abuse for them to be selfish because that is the right they have
and depending on the life they live it may not be selfish
However not giving your kid food or meeting their needs thats neglect
hurting them mentally emotionally sexually or physically thats abuse
and thats as black and white as it gets hun
now a days its just some moms are more dedicated than others and some are just not moms at all they just had a baby thats all it applies to both men and women now
I think this is what you were trying to say and describe and discuss without raising a fuss