If you had an unhealthy relationship with bd (he was abusive, on drugs, etc), how long did it take for you to get completely over him?
I just feel sick to my stomach thinking about him being with someone else, and then when LO brings him up, OH BOY. And then just little things remind me of him and it sucks. I can't even get on fbook anymore, because I don't wanna be tempted to look at his profile and get myself upset.
Am I crazy or do other mama's go through this?

I have not been in an abusive relationship, but I would assume that it would take the same amount of time as a "normal" relationship. The time varying by person.

I said 3-6 months. We split up a couple times. First time we split up for a year and a half and I made some not so smart choices and slept with about 20 men in that time period. Mainly, it was trying to get over him, stupid I know. This last and final time, I met a really nice guy shortly after splitting up with him and he has been so amazing to us. So that made it easier to split with BD.

I forgot say, I blocked him and all of his immediate family on facebook. My ex was physically abusive and very controlling. I didn't want him knowing anything about me after we split up.

It took me over a year to get over my abusive ex. He just had this way of making me feel SO bad about myself like he was the ONLY guy who would ever love me. And I just wanted him to be there for my son. And he had absolutely no interest. Things got easier after I stopped trying to reach out to him and force him to be a part of his son's life that he had no interest in. I think if you CAN, it's easier to cute off all ties with him, delete him from FB, delete his number, etc. Obviously it's a bit harder if he's involved with you LO, but mine never was.

i'm not currently going through this, but my friend is. she's been with the man for 13 years, and they're going through a divorce now. he was abusive to her and he is on drugs. it's new for her still, but she still has doubts of if she's doing the right thing by leaving him. it will take time, but things will get better.

Quoting Your friendly n00berhood :" I have not been in an abusive relationship, but I would assume that it would take the same amount of time as a "normal" relationship. The time varying by person."

It doesn't take the same amount of time as a normal relationship. By the time they leave, you are just SO emotionally drained and attached to them that you can't even imagine living without them and you go back and forth between being happy you're finally free and wishing they just loved you like they said they did and wishing they would just TALK to you. It's a long process to get over that emotional roller coaster and I certainly didn't have to deal with that in any of my other relationships.

Quoting ♥crazybitch:" If you had an unhealthy relationship with bd (he was abusive, on drugs, etc), how long did it take for ... [snip!] ... because I don't wanna be tempted to look at his profile and get myself upset. Am I crazy or do other mama's go through this?"

I got over my BD quick! We split up for 8 months and decided to try and work things out, so we got back together. Things were still the same as they were before and I just grew tired of all of it!! It really just depends on the person and their mentality when it comes to "getting over someone".. You can only get over him if your REALLY wanting to. Find things that occupy your time and your mind.. MOST IMPORTANTLY: Put your child first. It's not healthy for your kid to grow up in that kind of environment.