re: LO is crying too much

Quoting Justine's Mama:" Wells he is on alimentum so if she is colicky wouldn't that help it a bit? Yeah it helps to walk around ... [snip!] ... her and soother her but then she gets a little fussy after I stop. Its like she all of a sudden wants my constant attention."

It probably helps with the gas but colic can happen no matter what the baby is being fed. I went through it with both my kids, one was on regular formula, the other is EBF. She is still too young to understand "if I cry Mommy will give me attention." She's crying because she needs something, even if it's just your warmth.

Quoting Justine's Mama:" 8 weeks in two days."

Definately dont just let her cry then. She is still new to the world, and needs lots of love and comfort right now. No matter what your doing, if she starts crying, go to her. If not she can start to become insecure, wich will make her even worse. She needs to know your there if she needs you because she cant do anything for herself yet. Remember, there is no such thing as a spoiled infant. She is going to go through clingy and needy phases for years to come. Just be patient, and do your best. Everything will turn out ok.

Quoting Justine's Mama:" Wells he is on alimentum so if she is colicky wouldn't that help it a bit? Yeah it helps to walk around ... [snip!] ... her and soother her but then she gets a little fussy after I stop. Its like she all of a sudden wants my constant attention."

Yeah she dose want your constant attention LOL that is how they are. Try wearing the baby, that can give you more mobility with her until this phase passes.

Quoting applelove:" you CAN NOT SPOIL A 8 WEEK old! Please know that! All they know is you, because they have been living ... [snip!] ... will become more independent in a few months, you should try and enjoy this time as much as you can because it only comes once."

No I don't let her cry I know they shouldn't be left to cry at this age. Although everyone who comes over swears I attend to her to quickly but I do what I want with her. I didn't know that you couldn't spoil them at this age. Its just a bit stress full when she switches up on me. Its alright I guess Its just hard I like a tidy house. But I rather her a happy baby.

Quoting Justine's Mama:" That's what I have been doing. I have just been giving her my attention. "

Just carry on with giving her your attention. She loves you and wants to be with you.   Honestly, she'll get better, Dexter still shouts for me if I'm not in the room with him but as soon as I shout back or go and say hello he shushes and goes back to chewing whatever toy he has with him. lol.

Quoting Justine's Mama:" No I don't let her cry I know they shouldn't be left to cry at this age. Although everyone who comes ... [snip!] ... stress full when she switches up on me. Its alright I guess Its just hard I like a tidy house. But I rather her a happy baby."

Well when you said "When she cries I wait maybe a minute then go to her. Do I need to wait longer or something? " I thought that you were trying to make her wait for a min and you were wondering if you should wait longer?

Hum sorry

But a lot of people use to think that you can spoil them, people like maybe your parents. But that has been proven to be totally wrong. So that is good that you know that now! And when people tell you that you go to her too soon then you can tell them too have their own baby.

Thanks ladies. I will just attend to her like I have been.

Quoting applelove:" Well when you said "When she cries I wait maybe a minute then go to her. Do I need to wait longer or ... [snip!] ... that you know that now! And when people tell you that you go to her too soon then you can tell them too have their own baby."

I know not to let them cry. But I though they could get spoiled. I just meant if I was approaching her way to soon and then maybe she was just doing this becaue she wants to get me to her.

my 4 month old has always been that way and its beacuse he gets pissed off that hes not able to move hes started to get better and be more independent slowly i just cant wait until he starts sitting up and crawling cause than him and my toddler will be able to play together

Quoting Dexter's Mummy!:" Just carry on with giving her your attention. She loves you and wants to be with you.   Honestly, she'll ... [snip!] ... with him but as soon as I shout back or go and say hello he shushes and goes back to chewing whatever toy he has with him. lol."

Your baby was born the day before my daughter!  
/being creepy  

Quoting Justine's Mama:" I know not to let them cry. But I though they could get spoiled. I just meant if I was approaching her way to soon and then maybe she was just doing this becaue she wants to get me to her. "

Yes! She does just want you to get to her, but not because she is becoming a spoiled little girl but because she needs you. She is not old enough to know that if you cry she will come. She just knows that she doesn't feel right so she cries.

As long as you fallow your heart and do what feels right, like going to your baby when she cries for you. Then you and her will do just fine! Try not to worry about everything. All a baby that age needs is you and a boob and things will work out. You and her will do just fine!

From all the posts of your I looked at I would guess that you have someone in your life who is "old fashioned" AKA "outdated" in their parenting info. And they are pushing their opinions on you. So if I am right and someone is telling you outdated info that is making you feel like you are doing things wrong. Then just stick to what feels right, and what your Dr tells you and let them know a lot has changed in the medical world.

If I am wrong then... hey it was just a guess.

Quoting applelove:" Yes! She does just want you to get to her, but not because she is becoming a spoiled little girl but ... [snip!] ... your Dr tells you and let them know a lot has changed in the medical world. If I am wrong then... hey it was just a guess."

Yeah my mother and SO mother give advice and try to do things and they had babies 20 plus years ago. Things have changed and they dis agree with me a lot. Also other moms my age try to tell me stuff that I don't agree with.

Quoting Justine's Mama:" Yeah my mother and SO mother give advice and try to do things and they had babies 20 plus years ago. ... [snip!] ... Things have changed and they dis agree with me a lot. Also other moms my age try to tell me stuff that I don't agree with. "

You know a lot of stuff has changed like the CIO method use to be believed to be the best thing for a baby. But now there is research that proves it can be VERY harmful for babies. Other things like putting whisky on a baby's gums for teething and feeding rice cereal ... and that old belief that if the mom goes to a crying baby too soon then they will be spoiled.

There are even more old outdated beliefs that have been proven to be wrong.
Now that dose not mean parents don't still do that "old, outdated" stuff like putting a little brandy or whisky on your baby's gums or letting them just Cry it out. Just because some people still do it and their babys didn't die dose not make it right.

My best advise is do your own research on things. And don't just come to baby gaga, you need to look at reputable web pages. Lots of Moms on here have great advise but lots of them also have outdated advise like your Mom. Lots of them think that outdated stuff is best.

You need to do your own research and make your own opinions and then you can do what is best from what you have learned rather than what advise was handed down to your mom from her mom's mom... before we had as much access to information.

And find a good Dr who you trust and listen to them  
I think you are doing a good job

Quoting Ⓙⓔⓩ:" Your baby was born the day before my daughter!   /being creepy  "

Not creepy!   I love talking to people with babies the same ages as mine!!   can i PT you? x

Quoting Dexter's Mummy!:" Not creepy!   I love talking to people with babies the same ages as mine!!   can i PT you? x"

Of course! And we're both from the UK as well!