Quoting Justine's Mama:" Yeah my mother and SO mother give advice and try to do things and they had babies 20 plus years ago. ... [snip!] ... Things have changed and they dis agree with me a lot. Also other moms my age try to tell me stuff that I don't agree with. "
You know a lot of stuff has changed like the CIO method use to be believed to be the best thing for a baby. But now there is research that proves it can be VERY harmful for babies. Other things like putting whisky on a baby's gums for teething and feeding rice cereal ... and that old belief that if the mom goes to a crying baby too soon then they will be spoiled.
There are even more old outdated beliefs that have been proven to be wrong.
Now that dose not mean parents don't still do that "old, outdated" stuff like putting a little brandy or whisky on your baby's gums or letting them just Cry it out. Just because some people still do it and their babys didn't die dose not make it right.
My best advise is do your own research on things. And don't just come to baby gaga, you need to look at reputable web pages. Lots of Moms on here have great advise but lots of them also have outdated advise like your Mom. Lots of them think that outdated stuff is best.
You need to do your own research and make your own opinions and then you can do what is best from what you have learned rather than what advise was handed down to your mom from her mom's mom... before we had as much access to information.
And find a good Dr who you trust and listen to them
I think you are doing a good job