re: GAH why do you feel bad?!

Quoting Sock Lady:" Your MIL needs to stop doing that smurf so your SIL can learn how to take care of her kids. My mother ... [snip!] ... it sounds like everyone but your SIL is raising those kids, and that is just sad. Why does your MIL think that this is okay? "

DH says it's been like this forever.
MIL feels bad for her for some smurfing reason. Poor SIL blah blah blah. They do all the smurf to themselves. They've been married for 6/7 years and they have lived in 5 different houses because they just keep stopping paying bills when they get sick of the house and MIL bails them out and they go to a different house.
MIL does EVERYTHING for her. I am SO happy my husband doesn't act like his sister, yeah he doesn't clean up after himself a lot because MIL cleaned his room for him until he moved out at 24 years old but whatever I will take that over him not being responsible.
I could go on forever with all the dumb smurf that SIL and BIL do... lol

Quoting InkDMomma:" DH says it's been like this forever. MIL feels bad for her for some smurfing reason. Poor SIL blah blah ... [snip!] ... I will take that over him not being responsible. I could go on forever with all the dumb smurf that SIL and BIL do... lol"

  Wow. It definitely sounds like your SIL is taking advantage of your MIL. That is just not right.

Quoting InkDMomma:" Everyone is always saying "OH POOR SIL she is so overwhelmed with having 4 kids poor her blah blah blah" ... [snip!] ... get "fixed" Maybe if you disciplined your smurffy little kids they would be more bearable to be around AND they would behave..."

thats like my sister.

she had 5 kids... all under 5.
came and lived with my dad cuz she had no where to go and she didnt even ATTEMPT to take care of even one of them. luckily shes fixed.
and then CPS took the kids away this past october. which is probably for the best. (we dont have contact with her anymore)

i cant stand it when people can just keep having kids like that... when people like me and you (well used to be you lol) have miscarriages. people who strive to be moms. and want these kids :/
sure there are days i can barley handle makenzey, but doesnt mean i cant stick through it.