re: GAH why do you feel bad?!

Quoting It's so Fluffayy!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting →Ebahϖ:</b>" amen. i agree with you. my sister couldnt ... [snip!] ... her 2 kids plus 1 on the way. (she has a home they gave her, pay her bills, buy everything and she still bitches and complains)"

you could give my sister a million dollars on a soild gold plate and she would find some reason to complain about it. when my grandma died she left 10,500 to be split between my and my sister. my mom gave my sister 7,500 so she could get the exact car in the color she wanted and another 500 to get it fixed out of the money that was suppose to be split between the both of us. then bitched and complained that i wouldnt loan her "gas money" even thou she has a job and i didnt. every time she gets into a fight with her drug addict boyfriend she runs to my moms house and stays there. and my mom always lets her come back.

Sounds like my SIL except she only has one kid and can't handle it lol my in laws take her child very weekend to give her a break and her in laws take him too

It boggles my mind

If she gets sick she cries I need my mommy and stays at her moms so she can take care of her .... She's 32


Oh well I couldn't handle 4 kids either. That's why I will never have 4 kids lol

This is just like my one sister! She pops the kids out but then refuses to parent them. My mom has custody of her first child, her ex has custody of her 2nd child. She just had her third 5 weeks ago and is trying to get me to watch her overnight so she can go out. If you cant handle kids you shouldn't have them

Quoting snglemama:" are you jealous because they aren't helping you? 4 kids is a lot. I LOVE my kids... but also love ... [snip!] ... by herself.. she had them with her SO. So.. if he's gone for an entire weekend... and family wants to help.. FANTASTIC. "

Not jealous in the least bit I can handle my own children.
He is gone 2 days... she even bitches having them for one day let alone a couple hours. She's just a complete whine ass that thinks all because her husband isn't there she needs everyone to take her kids for her.
Like I said if you can't handle them don't have them.
She had a break down at 2 kids and they tried for more.. it's her own damn fault.

Quoting m o m ♥:" Sounds like my SIL except she only has one kid and can't handle it lol my in laws take her child very ... [snip!] ... so she can take care of her .... She's 32 Oh well I couldn't handle 4 kids either. That's why I will never have 4 kids lol"

Should be her exact smurfing mind set. lol but nooooo

Quoting InkDMomma:" Not jealous in the least bit I can handle my own children. He is gone 2 days... she even bitches having ... [snip!] ... if you can't handle them don't have them. She had a break down at 2 kids and they tried for more.. it's her own damn fault."

How old are her kids?

Quoting Supafly★:" How old are her kids? "

6,5,2, and 5 months

Quoting InkDMomma:" 6,5,2, and 5 months"

Wow, that's a handful. Damn. It's not even like any of them are self-sufficient whatsoever. And if her baby is anything like mine, I can see why she'd need a break once in awhile. But it's ridiculous to have kids just so their grandparents will take care of them all the time. What's the point then? lol.

Wow. That is just sad. Why the hell would she have that many kids if she knew she couldn't handle them?
I have 5 kids and 1 on the way, and while it gets stressful sometimes, I am perfectly capable of taking care of my kids by myself. All of my family and friends live 4 hours away, so I have no help or support from them, and I am completely fine with that. I don't need their help. Dh is hardly home, and goes on taskings and deployments, and I handle it just fine by myself. He does help out when he is home though. I know my limits though. I know how many kids I can handle. Dh and I have always wanted to have a big family. I just don't understand why people have so many kids when they know that they can't handle that many.

Quoting Supafly★:" Wow, that's a handful. Damn. It's not even like any of them are self-sufficient whatsoever. And if ... [snip!] ... But it's ridiculous to have kids just so their grandparents will take care of them all the time. What's the point then? lol. "

She doesn't even HAVE THEM all the time lol She has them all in daycare/school
She only deals with them for dinner/bedtime and then the weekends. Then on the weekends she always tries to pawn them off on my in-laws
Of course my MIL always gives in... but FIL bails the smurf out and hides at the bar hahahaha

Her family like...doesn't use common sense... Like say you have an emergency trip to the grocery store at 10 at night for like... diapers or something.
Rather than just sending her husband.. or her just going... They pack up all the kids and drop them off at my in-laws while her and her husband go to the store. It just...boggles my smurfing mind.

Quoting InkDMomma:" She doesn't even HAVE THEM all the time lol She has them all in daycare/school She only deals with ... [snip!] ... up all the kids and drop them off at my in-laws while her and her husband go to the store. It just...boggles my smurfing mind."

I'm sorry, but that is just smurfing pathetic.  

Quoting Sock Lady:" Wow. That is just sad. Why the hell would she have that many kids if she knew she couldn't handle them? ... [snip!] ... to have a big family. I just don't understand why people have so many kids when they know that they can't handle that many."

People are just stupid. I mean... if I am able to physically and financially I would love to have more than 4 kids ( that's our main goal, but we would love more) but I can HANDLE them.

It's because my MIL enables the smurf out of her though... after she has a kid she basically lives in with her for a few months... and my SIL goes out with her friends and sleeps most of the day and MIL lets it happen because " well she was pregnant and unable to do stuff for so long and this many kids is hard on her"
She is smurfing 33 years old... jesus christ.

Quoting Sock Lady:" I'm sorry, but that is just smurfing pathetic.  "

THANK YOU.

Quoting InkDMomma:" People are just stupid. I mean... if I am able to physically and financially I would love to have more ... [snip!] ... was pregnant and unable to do stuff for so long and this many kids is hard on her" She is smurfing 33 years old... jesus christ."

Your MIL needs to stop doing that smurf so your SIL can learn how to take care of her kids. My mother would NEVER do that for me...EVER...and I would never ask her to or expect her to, either. Helping out once in a while is one thing, but it sounds like everyone but your SIL is raising those kids, and that is just sad. Why does your MIL think that this is okay?

Quoting InkDMomma:" THANK YOU."

You're welcome.