Vent!

I've been holding off on really posting anything about my living situation on here because i know that a lot of moms don't agree with teens keeping their children while under the same roof as their parents. I don't feel like i'm aloud to vent or be upset about anything because this is the situation i got myself into and thus far i haven't complained once. When i was pregnant i was living with my boyfriend and had support from just about everyone so i didn't see a reason for adoption. My boyfriend at the time moved back to england and we broke up about 3 months into the pregnancy. Even then i didn't see a reason for adoption because my parents completely supported it and i figured everything would be okay. back to the present. My parents haven't paid for my daughter or anything having to do with her since she was like 4 months old, my grandparents pay for just about everything. They told me that if i went through college, got my licence and tried to get on my feet from their help then they'd pay for everything. I'm SO thankful for everything they've done to help me out. Now my parents on the other hand are a different story. I love my mom to death but she has always had a habit of dating the wrong people. She's been with this guy for 8 years and he doesn't agree with my mom helping me out. at all. He wont kick me out but he doesn't like her watching my daughter, he doesnt like her doing absolutely anything for her. I've been sick for over a week and so has my daughter but my step-dad makes us pretty much stay locked up in the room so we dont get him sick and my mom just never helps out. They fight 24/7 and they drink 24/7 it's just ridiculous. Again i know i have no room to be ungrateful because i chose this but still. they act like teenagers staying up all night and sleeping all day. I've been dating this guy for 8 months and he's pretty much my daughters dad and he's away at college about two hours away and we're trying as hard as possible to move out but it's not easy. My grandparens wanted to get me an apartment and everything but that's way too much. I've tried talking to my mom about helping out like every once in a while but she doesnt want her fiance to get mad. She's watched my daughter once and Skylar's 10 months old. And the only reason why she did is because i HAD to take a placement test for college and it was only 2 hours. I'm just so miserable. I'm usually fine with all this except when my daughter and i are soo sick and we cant get better because we're stuck in this stupid room. Oh also my grandparents said they wont pay for my college if i get a job because then they said i should do it all alone but they said if i stay in college they'll pay for everything until i get on my feet.

So just to clarify. They don't want you to work, and if you do they won't help you? Are you able to stay with them? Teenager or not, if someone is pretty much locking you in a room that's wrong.

Get through school. It'll help in the long run. See if you can get state aid and go for child support. You're little one deserves it. And you need it. If you ever need to talk,pm me

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" So just to clarify. They don't want you to work, and if you do they won't help you? Are you able to stay with them? Teenager or not, if someone is pretty much locking you in a room that's wrong."

pretty much. because then if i have a job they think i can pay for everything myself but the only problem is that if i get a job who's going to watch sky? The daycare alone would be my whole paycheck. They'd rather buy me an apartment than have me with them because they have their own life and all. They're not necessarily locking me in my room but i can't go just sit on the couch or anything because he doesn't want to get sick. He's a musician in a band and has to stay healthy even though he brings in like 100 dollars every month.

I'm confused too. Why can't you workand go to school like other teen moms? Can you not live with your grandparents, work part time, and go to school?

Quoting Kennedi's Momma:" Get through school. It'll help in the long run. See if you can get state aid and go for child support. You're little one deserves it. And you need it. If you ever need to talk,pm me"

Thank you! I honestly thought i'd just get "whine whine whine" or some other rude comment. I'm getting straight A's in college so far and i'll definitely get through it, it's just hard since it's the first week of school this semester and sky can't even be in daycare because she's so sick and now i'm sick and look..no help.

Quoting snglemama:" I'm confused too. Why can't you workand go to school like other teen moms? Can you not live with your grandparents, work part time, and go to school?"

They will not pay for her daycare, my schooling, and everything else if i get a job because then they want me to pay for everything. they dont see a reason for me to have a job if they're supporting me and i'm already going to college full time

Quoting Maddie F:" pretty much. because then if i have a job they think i can pay for everything myself but the only problem ... [snip!] ... want to get sick. He's a musician in a band and has to stay healthy even though he brings in like 100 dollars every month."

Well, I mean it's best for YOUR experience to have to do some of it on your own. But if they're willing to pay for all of it and are able so you can go to school, it's a big blessing. I'd just stay in school and be thankful for the help. Maybe try to find a small apartment that's income based so they don't have to pay as much?

It's not your Mom's responsibility to take care of your child, sick or not. There are resources you can apply for...housing assistance, daycare, foodstamps, financial aid for school. You have access to the internet, so you should be able to find all the info you need to apply for those things.

You're allowed to vent, honey. Anyone that says otherwise... well, smurf 'em.   It seems to me like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders, you're just stuck in a smurf situation. Just gotta make the most of it. I'm not one of those that's going to get down on you because you got pregnant, smurf happens, and I'm no one to judge.

I would just focus on finishing school for now. If your grandma wanted to get you an apartment, why not take her up on it? There are little studio (one room) apartments for less than 400 a month, that would be plenty for you and your daughter, being as it seems you're confined to one room already. Stay strong, sweets, this too shall pass. Keep working hard, and keep your chin up. Before you know it, you'll be living on your own with your daughter and all of this will seem like a distant memory.

If you ever need someone to vent to, feel free to PM me any time.  

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Well, I mean it's best for YOUR experience to have to do some of it on your own. But if they're willing ... [snip!] ... school and be thankful for the help. Maybe try to find a small apartment that's income based so they don't have to pay as much

They were going to get one this semester because they know how hard it is raising a kid in this house but i dont have a car yet so i'm getting my license and everything figured out this semester and then i'll be talking to them again about it. The only reason why i'd hold off is because my boyfriend and i are planning on moving out anyways once he gets out of college in two years but that's awhile:/

Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" It's not your Mom's responsibility to take care of your child, sick or not. There are resources you can ... [snip!] ... aid for school. You have access to the internet, so you should be able to find all the info you need to apply for those things."

That's not what I took from it. What I took is pretty much her mom isn't allowed to even if she wants to because the boyfriend won't let her. And teen or not everyone deserves a break from time to time. I know I drop my kid off with my mom even if it's just to have 30 minutes alone to go to the store without having to hassle with getting him in and out and spitting his binki on the floor every 5 minutes lol

Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" It's not your Mom's responsibility to take care of your child, sick or not. There are resources you can ... [snip!] ... aid for school. You have access to the internet, so you should be able to find all the info you need to apply for those things."

I already have daycare for one and i already have applied for everything, maybe try asking next time? and I know it's not her responsibility but usually grandparents want to help out just a little bit. All their worried about is partying and fighting. That was my point. I wasn't sitting here saying it was their job too, just that every once in a while would be nice.

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" That's not what I took from it. What I took is pretty much her mom isn't allowed to even if she wants ... [snip!] ... to go to the store without having to hassle with getting him in and out and spitting his binki on the floor every 5 minutes lol"

Where did I say anything about her being a teen? If she has someone who is willing to and wants to help, great, but nobody is obligated to do so.
She was complaining about her not helping and staying up all night "acting like a teenager".

Quoting Maddie F:" They were going to get one this semester because they know how hard it is raising a kid in this house ... [snip!] ... is because my boyfriend and i are planning on moving out anyways once he gets out of college in two years but that's awhile:/"

I'd honestly not count on that since it's so far away. I'd do what you can now   And not to be the negative Nancy here, but boys come and go. Don't try and plan your future around him. Do what's best for you right now