re: Vent!

Quoting Maddie F:" i'm so used to it by now. I've had to take care of my dad while he was into drugs and i've had to be ... [snip!] ... just tell him to smurf off and to do what she wants. I had to explain everything else because i haven't posted about this before"

I'm sorry you have to be used to it. Hopefully it's taught you what direction not to go. It seems it has so that's good.

Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" Where did i say anything about her doing that,smh. I said clearly, OP is complaining about her ... [snip!] ... her Mom. Her mom is an adult, can drinnk and do whatever she wants, she is not obligated to watch op's kid or help in any way."

I didn't mean to complain about that i just meant that my mom WANTS to help out but because her fiance is controlling and says she has to go to his gigs and cant help me with anything then she's not willing to disobey him and it's been that way with every boyfriend she has. She definitely doesn't act like an adult. It's frustrating that i get called a kid because i'm younger even though i'm the one who cleans this whole house and does everything and she's the "adult" yet she parties all the time and does whatever he says.

Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" Where did i say anything about her doing that,smh. I said clearly, OP is complaining about her ... [snip!] ... her Mom. Her mom is an adult, can drinnk and do whatever she wants, she is not obligated to watch op's kid or help in any way."

Okay, say what you want that's fine. But I don't see a reason to be overly critical of this girl. If she was a grown adult and was upset about a parent being in a bad situation people would be more than willing to help give advice on how to help her mother or how to deal with it but because she's a teen parent that makes her unable to feel bad about a situation. Got it.   It's not like she's sitting here complaining "I WANNA GO OUT A MY MOMMA WON'T WATCH MY BABY SO I CAN PARTY!" She's said her mom's boyfriend is overbearing, controlling and they're drunks pretty much. I'm sorry but I don't care how old someone is, that's a crappy situation to deal with.

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I'm sorry you have to be used to it. Hopefully it's taught you what direction not to go. It seems it has so that's good."

It definitely has. I haven't had a drink in over two years and i refuse to because of all this.

Quoting Maddie F:" It definitely has. I haven't had a drink in over two years and i refuse to because of all this."

Good for you! It'll be good for your little girl too once you're both out of the situation.

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Okay, say what you want that's fine. But I don't see a reason to be overly critical of this girl. If ... [snip!] ... and they're drunks pretty much. I'm sorry but I don't care how old someone is, that's a crappy situation to deal with."

you keep throwing around her being a teen parent, I never once said anything about it. I don't care if you are 15 or 30, nobody is obligated to help with your child. I did give her advice, I told her to apply for resources to get out of her situation.

Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" you keep throwing around her being a teen parent, I never once said anything about it. I don't care ... [snip!] ... obligated to help with your child. I did give her advice, I told her to apply for resources to get out of her situation. "

I never said she had to do anything either i said it would be helpful if she did considering the fact that she WANTS to but her fiance wont let her. As much as i help her out it'd be nice.

Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" you keep throwing around her being a teen parent, I never once said anything about it. I don't care ... [snip!] ... obligated to help with your child. I did give her advice, I told her to apply for resources to get out of her situation. "

And she said she did. She's doing the best she can. I've never had an issue with you before, actually usually agree with you, but this time I can't. She's not asking anyone to take care of her kid. If that's what you got from it that's fine, but I certainly didn't. And I think in reality everyone "expects" a little help from time to time from people. Is it right? No, but I think as humans it's natural. And to expect a grandparent to want to spend time with their grandchild isn't too unreasonable.

Quoting Maddie F:" I never said she had to do anything either i said it would be helpful if she did considering the fact that she WANTS to but her fiance wont let her. As much as i help her out it'd be nice. "

Do you pay them for rent, utilities, groceries?

Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" Do you pay them for rent, utilities, groceries?"

actually my grandparents pay their bills because her boyfriend refuses to get a job. and again i CANT get a job unless i want to be in an even worse situation. My grandparents offered to help and i'm doing everything they want.

Quoting Maddie F:" actually my grandparents pay their bills because her boyfriend refuses to get a job. and again i CANT ... [snip!] ... get a job unless i want to be in an even worse situation. My grandparents offered to help and i'm doing everything they want. "

Nobody works and your grandparents support everyone?

Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" Nobody works and your grandparents support everyone?"

My mom just now started working and she gives all her money to her boyfriend. I would be working and i've told them numerous times that i want to but they've said that they'll stop paying for my college. soo should i get a low paying job forever or agree with them and go through college? I think i made the best choice

Quoting Maddie F:" My mom just now started working and she gives all her money to her boyfriend. I would be working and ... [snip!] ... my college. soo should i get a low paying job forever or agree with them and go through college? I think i made the best choice"

School for sure!

Quoting Maddie F:" My mom just now started working and she gives all her money to her boyfriend. I would be working and ... [snip!] ... my college. soo should i get a low paying job forever or agree with them and go through college? I think i made the best choice"

Have you tried to talk to them about getting a part time job, while school is still the main priority? Then you can contribute some, have a little spending money and gain work experience.

Double post.