Ok I am going to vent about 2 different ppl and it may get confusing...so please stay with me.
If you are willing to give up your rights to your kids and just stop seeing them do you have the right to bitch about not being allowed to see them after a few years?
My dd's dad re-married and had two kids with his wife, when they divorced she lost her kids. He took the kids for a few months then lost the kids, both lost them for different reasons and some the same.
My dd's dad rarely see's my dd. He see's his other duaghters every weekend. His ex wife out of nowhere stopped seeing the kids (when they were in foster care) she could remain seeing them and didnt want to sign her rights over, she just stopped taking them for visits.
Still with me???
Ok so my ex complains about me and giving him a hard time about the 10 yrs he wasnt there for my dd. She see's him but only at his moms house. I dont want her at his house.
Ok so he now has a 1 yr old son, that lives with him and his gf......
He is bitching and complaining about how his ex wife does not see the their kids, and how its damaging to the girls, they miss their mom. Its been 2 yrs now.
How is this any different then him not seeing his first born daughter, my daughter who is damaged by it. She see's her half sisters all the time and they talk about their dad and what he does for them etc.....And she is even at 10 confused about it how he can see them and not her. How he lives with and cares for his son every day but cant call her.
they both make me mad so very mad. All of these poor kids need therapy to understand why all these things are going on. The two girls in foster care, my dd who's dad is just not there, then what about the new son, how is he going to understand later in life why his sisters dont live with him and why his oldest half sister his dad doesnt care about...
I know its a confusing situation altogether, so many kids with so many issues.
I am seriously deleting them off of fb...I cant take it anymore, you bitch your ex wife is a deadbeat mom but you are a deadbeat dad, she bitches she misses her kids , but she is the one who stopped seeing them for no reason...ugh my brain hurts. lol
I am keeping my dd's dads new gf, I like her she is nice and we talk and she is scared that one day he will do this to their son. But she said for the time being he is a good dad to their son. But he was a good dad the first yr of my dd's life (well for the most part) and too his other girls to, till they divorced and then lost them...
I am at loss here really.
God this smurf is so smurfed up...you with me on this?