re: Is it true your first pregnancy usually ends in a missed mis

sorry hun, but your cousin is an idiot. "my first pregnancy that was supposed to supposively end in mc" is sleeping in her crib right now. i am going on 13 weeks with my second. girl you got two weeks and your out of the danger zone!

Quoting Trina Tadlock:" my cousin made me cry tonight. I am 11w 3 days pregnant and she knows i fear a misscarriage. She started ... [snip!] ... a missed miscarriage.. She did not seem to care that this made me cry. Is this true and why would she even say it if it is?"

I dont know why someone would say that especially if ur 11 weeks, even if they did believe that! WOW! Ive never had a miscarriage and have 3 beautiful kids....

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting meggymama:</b>" I wish it were here, two friends of mine have ... [snip!] ... different level. But a loss is a loss. I don't trivialize someone else's loss. But mine were different in how I grieved them."

I honestly haven't trivialised anything, I'm sorry if it's come across that way.
All 6 of my losses have been 1st tri - 5,5,5 7 and 8.5 weeks, no talk of a baby in the hospital, no place to visit peoples sympathy extends to telling you to try again, and that it was only cells. I do feel that with a later loss it is harder because you must feel the baby move, you grow to know them. I could not cope with any more losses and this is my last pregnancy because of that. It is very hard to talk about this kind of thing without being misunderstood.

<blockquote><b>Quoting meggymama:</b>" I honestly haven't trivialised anything, I'm sorry if it's come across that way. All 6 of my losses ... [snip!] ... and this is my last pregnancy because of that. It is very hard to talk about this kind of thing without being misunderstood. "</blockquote>



I have lost at 4,6,9,12,15, and 23 weeks. My 23 weeker was born alive.

Earlier losses aren't easier, but they definitely are different.

Part of what makes the early losses hard is that other people ASSUME they're easier and tell you the trite BS about it being a bunch if cells and you can try again, etc...especially after you have had many.

The part about losing one later that was hardest for me to cope with is feeling like you have a chance to make it and getting SO close and havin it ripped away a suddenly. And every pregnancy after that you're left knowing that while many women do have a safe point, you just don't.

<blockquote><b>Quoting meggymama:</b>" I honestly haven't trivialised anything, I'm sorry if it's come across that way. All 6 of my losses ... [snip!] ... and this is my last pregnancy because of that. It is very hard to talk about this kind of thing without being misunderstood. "</blockquote>




Oh no I understand what you're saying. I completely understand. They're different. My loss of my daughter at 2 hours old after being born at 41 weeks is different than my loss at 7 weeks. I was devastated with my daughter but I hadn't bonded with the loss at 7 weeks. I don't grieve them the same but if someone does that's their way of grieving.

My pregnancy with my second daughter was so hard because I was on pins and needles the entire time thinking I would deliver her alive then get it ripped away from me like it did with my first.

But I understand what you are saying completely.

Pickle and Hoping im so so sorry for both of your losses. Pickle that's exactly it, for me people are getting exited saying 12 weeks you only have a week to go you can do this etc etc.
But with my condition i wont know my baby is going to be OK until he or she is out and pass as to when i will be able to relax, my 2 year ol d still has a movement monitor at night.

sounds like she is being very jealous of the fact that your pregnant and shes not !