Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" Discipline means teaching and i do believe every child should be taught and given the tools appropriate ... [snip!] ... him as it would prevent true learning from happening, but i teach him everyday how to be behave in the most effective way."
This. Minus the part about my child having a special need (to my knowledge).
On a side note - do you read up on the site ahaparenting.com? Your take on child rearing reminds me of that site quite often. If not check it out - you'd love it.