Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" That's what he was saying though. ... [snip!] ... yes, it's her fault for his hurt feelings in this instance. That doesn't excuse his behavior, but that was the question asked."
Quoting Rain (aka Mama):" Yeah, he's completely aware. It's been this way for a while. "
Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" Totally his MO"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... similar. Bad talks me to his parents so they take my side then when they find out my side from my BIL and SIL, they feel bad."
Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:" i thought how anniversaries worked is the man got the woman a gift or planned a nice diner and treated ... [snip!] ... work she does. if my so doesnt make me feel special every once in a while im sure as hell not going to make him feel special"
Quoting Jeronimo:" If it's been this way for a while... what is delaying the inevitable split? Have you told him that you ... [snip!] ... towards it? So as not take offense to your indifference. Or is this one of those "uspoken, but he should know" type things?"
Quoting Rain (aka Mama):" The depression part or the problems in general? Both have been a while. "
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Exactly. If there's nothing good between a couple in both directions what is there to celebrate?"
Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:" exactly. i may be sexist here but i always thought a happy wife meant a happy husband. why the eff should all aniversary plans be laid at op's door then bitch about not getting some. "
Quoting Rain (aka Mama):" I think it's mostly the kids, and not really agreeing with divorce in most cases. I've told him how ... [snip!] ... history, and though that's not the case right now, I have a hard time overlooking it and I've told him that."
Quoting Drippy Hairymuff:" OK so. I just talked to DH, and he said that if you call 911 the next time your husband threatens to ... [snip!] ... as a danger. OP, if you can't get him in to seek medical help, this might be the only way to get him psychiatric help. "