everything is good:-)

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SO says the same kind of thing to me when we fight. I would just get some fruits and veggies next time you guys go for groceries. Produce really isn't that expensive.

maybe get a part time job so you can have your own money? No way could I live feeling like I'm trapped.

Quoting BareFootBabyMaker:" maybe get a part time job so you can have your own money? No way could I live feeling like I'm trapped."

this... i would work and pay for the things I needed and wouldn't ask him for a thing. and it'd probably do you some good to gain some independence from him.

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There are so many things about this post that make me angry! (At him, not you!). FIRST OF ALL, he needs to take a step back and realize that what you do is PROBABLY worth MORE than what he does (I have no idea what he does for a living but if selfishly buying a $200 camera is enough to set you back to buying only bread and cheese then he probably doesn't contribute as much as he thinks) This is just one of several articles that details the worth of a SAHM:

http://www.thefiscaltimes.com/Articles/2012/05/04/What-Are-Stay-at-Home-Moms-Really-Worth.aspx#page1

You DON'T get time off. When he comes home from work, he is clocked out and is free of responsibility. Something tells me that if the baby cries at 3am you don't say, "Nope, I've clocked out 4 hours ago. The baby will have to wait til 8am". Being a SAHM is the most exhausting (and thankless!) job on the planet.

What I want to say next may make some people mad but he is displaying some signs of abuse. Just because he hasn't physically hit you doesn't mean you're not being abused- one of the signs is that he has made you financially dependent on him to the point where he dictates what you can and can not buy at the grocery store for your breastfeeding body and child even though he can buy things that aren't necessary to vital functions (i.e. camera) without asking you first. He belittles you by saying what you do is not worth what he does and he also yells at you and makes you fear anything other than perfection (which we all know is impossible.)

I could go on such a long rant about this, but what I am trying to say is that you deserve better. EVERYONE deserves better than the way you're being treated.

*off of soapbox*

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Quoting Trisha Beck:" Trust me I've considered it...but I know it wouldn't work because he never wakes up till just about now(he ... [snip!] ... said I always go along with what he wants because its always his way...I just feel like sometimes he only thinks of himself "

Time to take control of your own life and throw the bag of excuses out the window.
Apply at day cares where you can take you child with you.
Try talking to him but you being so dependent on him isn't helping anything.
Where there's a will there's a way...so decide what you want and make it happen.

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If I were you I would get a job of my own. Some men like when women depend on them it makes them feel better about themselves Idk but nobody money spends like your own!

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my so says the stuff if his when we argue cause he payed for it

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No one can make you feel like smurf unless you allow them to. As hard as it is... you have to gain independence from him. It seems he want you to be a SAHM so he can control you. He is a control freak... and he is verbally abusive. Go to your moms tonight with the baby.... and STAY THERE. Show him you don't need him and you mean business. He will continue to treat you like smurf and degrade you as long as you let him. Sitting there helpless will just make things worse through the years. You say you hope when your son is old enough to understand he won't talk to the way he does.... guess what?? He completely will as long as you depend on him and take his crap. He is a ROYAL smurf! Stand up to him or leave him... things like this do not resolve themselves on their own... that's for sure.