Quoting Reise's Mommy:" Now she's talking to me about it and I don't know what to say. Oy. I just keep telling her I'm sorry in different ways "
It's hard to talk to someone about something you've never experienced. I tried to once. Turns out it really helped her just knowing that someone was listening, someone was willing to look at the pictures, hear the details, be that shoulder to cry on... even when I didn't know what to say or how to reply. After a while (like a month or so) I sent her some links to some things on face book where other angle moms make memory boxes and such for free to send to other angle moms. It really helped her capture her cherished memories of her little one. We had only started talking about a month before she lost her baby and we were due around the same day. Never met in person, but she said I'm one of the people that helped her the most. I didn't pretend like her baby never existed and I didn't avoid talking to her or turn my back when she wanted to talk about her baby.