re: Don't know if it's appropriate :(

We talked for a little bit and she ended up telling me she was really happy I messaged her and was glad she had someone to talk to because her only friend is out of town and before our conversation ended she stopped me and told me she just wanted to make sure I knew she was still happy for me being pregnant and asked me please not to feel awkward, tiptoe around her or hide my posts from her because she was glad for her friends who still have healthy pregnancies, so all went well. Thanks, ladies.

Quoting Milk Monster:" It's hard to talk to someone about something you've never experienced. I tried to once. Turns out ... [snip!] ... pretend like her baby never existed and I didn't avoid talking to her or turn my back when she wanted to talk about her baby. "

That's basically what she just told me not too long ago. She said it meant a lot to her that I messaged her and it helped to know she had someone she could talk to. I wish I could be more help. I feel like I should do something about, which is dumb because there's nothing anyone can do. I feel helpless, like there's nothing I can do to help but she said just knowing I'm one of the few people awake this late that she can message if she needs to was help enough. Doesn't feel like enough, though  

Message her. It hurts a lot more to go through something like that and have people ignore it.

ETA Just saw that you did message her.  

Quoting Reise's Mommy:" Now she's talking to me about it and I don't know what to say. Oy. I just keep telling her I'm sorry in different ways  "

If she is wanting to talk about it, ask her questions. Ask all kinds of questions. Ask her about the delivery experience and what might have caused it and if it can be prevented in the future. If she named her baby, use her baby's name whenever you refer to him or her. If she has pictures ask if she'd like to share and if she does tell her how beautiful and perfect her baby was. Also, you might light a candle for her baby and let her know. Someone on here did that for me and it touched me so much.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Milk Monster:</b>" It's hard to talk to someone about something you've never experienced. I tried to once. Turns out ... [snip!] ... pretend like her baby never existed and I didn't avoid talking to her or turn my back when she wanted to talk about her baby. "</blockquote>




Could you send me the facebook link, please?

Quoting nicolelynnexo:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Milk Monster:</b>" It's hard to talk to someone about something ... [snip!] ... or turn my back when she wanted to talk about her baby. "</blockquote> Could you send me the facebook link, please?"

Absolutely mama, there are quite a few so I'll go ahead and PM them to you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Milk Monster:</b>" Absolutely mama, there are quite a few so I'll go ahead and PM them to you. "</blockquote>




Thanks a million.