ugghhh mother-in-laws....

So my in-laws came to visit the other day (and they only come visit every 6 months or so bc they live about 45 mins away).... long story short I am 15 weeks preggers and this is the last child that will be born on my husbands side as far as grandkids go (we have 2 and one on way), his 2 brothers have 1 child each who are 14 -15. .. In the middle of the visit his mom says to me "well I might not be around long since I have COPD and I demand to have this child (if its a girl) named after my mother because I was never involved in any of my other grandchildren being named!!"... So I asked what her mothers real name was and was horrified, her name was Violet Editbell. My husband says we can incorporate one of them as a middle name... But to be honest I do not like either one, I really wanted to keep this babies name the same initials as my other 2 (CL or KL)... I dont want to hurt any ones feelings but how do I tell my husband and his mother that? And I might be more understanding if she said requested and not demanded...IDK maybe its just hormones but I'm at a loss on what to do here...

Tell her to have a kid and name it Violet then....





but no really, respectfully decline.

Just tell him.you dont like them.

Quoting Andrea Beaver:" So my in-laws came to visit the other day (and they only come visit every 6 months or so bc they live ... [snip!] ... more understanding if she said requested and not demanded...IDK maybe its just hormones but I'm at a loss on what to do here..."

You only see them every six months and they are only 45 minutes away? I know this is off topic, lol but we drive this every week to see family. lol

Anyhow, I would be a little irritated since it was demanded. But I would talk to your DH and see if its something that is important to him. Maybe it is something he really wants incorporated in the baby name. If it is something he wants then I would find a way. If it isn't important to him then I would just tell your MIL that you want to keep the names the same initials...

* I would just tell her right out. I wouldn't try and tip toe around it.

We didn't have a name picked out for our second baby, and we also didn't find out the gender, so once he was born we got allll sorts of opinions.

My step mom called and said, "It would be really comforting to have another Gregory in the family, I was telling everyone that I was going to suggest it."

Gregory is my step brother that died when he was 31 of muscular dystrophy.



Talk about awkward.


I really understood where she was coming from, but we didn't want to name our son that. We didn't and it never came up again. Don't cave. If she wants to name another child she should adopt one. She is way out of place.

Only visit once every 6 months because they live 45 minutes away? I wish I was that lucky!!! My in-laws live an hour and a half away and they insist on seeing us EVERY week... gets on my nerves -_-

If someone demanded I name my child something...it would pretty much guarantee that I would not name it that name.

My grandma wanted me to name a potential daughter Michaela Darleen. After her. Ew. No.

What if you did two middle names. So you can keep CL or KL. You could have CLV or KLV. or CLE or KLE. Personally i would do violet, much prettier.

If you really dont want to, tell your husband and then let your mother-in-law know. After all, it is your kid, not hers. (Also, it might not be a girl. So you may not even have to worry about it.)

My mil demanded we name DD Mary Catherine Dorothy. For dh's great aunts and grandma. Because one of them helped him pay for college. I said no. I named her what we wanted to name her. She still hasn't gotten over it and I don't care. Don't cave and name your child something you hate. I know I would have regretted my name demand had I caved everyday for the rest of my life.

Quoting Nicola =):" You only see them every six months and they are only 45 minutes away? I know this is off topic, lol ... [snip!] ... that you want to keep the names the same initials... * I would just tell her right out. I wouldn't try and tip toe around it."

I was quite surprised by this too! It takes my husband longer then that to get to work in the morning!

That's ridiculous and way out of line for her to demand you name your child anything other than what you and your husband want. Don't even bring it up to her. If she says something about it again, simply say you have it handled and leave it at that. Choose a name you and your husband want.

Quoting Big Booty Heaux™:" Tell her to have a kid and name it Violet then.... but no really, respectfully decline."

Right lol, thanks for the advice

Quoting Andrea Beaver:" So my in-laws came to visit the other day (and they only come visit every 6 months or so bc they live ... [snip!] ... more understanding if she said requested and not demanded...IDK maybe its just hormones but I'm at a loss on what to do here..."

I would like to thank you all for all the great advice! So far my husband has not brought it up, hoping we can just drop it peacefully without no family drama! I will def keep ya'll updated on the outcome lol

MY FIL has COPD & renal failure. They live 1500 miles away & THEY visit twice a year.

And yes - you should never be made to feel ANY pressure about what to name your child, at all, except maybe a little perhaps with Dh if he has a particular leaning. Everyone else is not included in that process. I actually think Violet is cute, but still not sure I'd want to name my child that.

I actually named my LO after MIL. But only the middle name. I wasn't crazy about it at first, but it ended up being really pretty and it just flowed with her whole name.

If she demanded and then I didn't like her name anyways, then heck no. Id just ignore the issue really. lol