Quoting Emmy's Mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Clk:</b>" When I was twelve I didn't have breasts like most ... [snip!] ... but I would think she's just sending a message to her daughter that looks are very important, when they really shouldn't be."
But you know, actually looks ARE very important. Should they be? No. But depending on what kind of career you pursue, how you handle your appearance can make or break you. I am not an image-driven person. I wear blue jeans and ugly shoes and no makeup ever. I barely brush my hair, which hasn't been cut in years. Because I'm just kind of a hippy who has always thought that what's inside is more important than what's outside. Dh loves me no matter what I look like, as do my friends. But it's human nature to judge by appearance when we have no other information about the person. I was made fun of by "mean girls" at my last job for wearing ugly (comfy) shoes and not being makeuppy enough. I'm tall and thin and have pretty eyes and they just couldn't understand why I didn't doll myself up like a model everyday. But I didn't want to! Those women are awful, horrible, shallow, fake jerks and it's their loss. But you can't say that looks don't matter. They absolutely do, and it sucks but it's true.
I would never put my LO in a position to be in the public spotlight in the first place, but if for some reason she was, if there was some simple fix to keep the bullies a little bit quieter, then I'd do it.