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<blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" got ya! thanks. the thing is the boy don't even have to go to daycare iv offered to watch him on days ... [snip!] ... him on days i'm off after school when when i get off early but she don't want me to watch him... unless she in a bind  "</blockquote>




I wouldn't let someone watch my kid either that referred to him as "the boy"

Quoting Charlee ♥ Jensen:" For DH he is ordered to pay $254/month, have her on his insurance and has to pay 1/2 of all medical ... [snip!] ... other without. But this is with being married, he advised us to have CS reevaluated after Jay is born because it may drop more "

and were not married but so i don't think they would take into consideration another child..

Quoting jazzzzz*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" got ya! thanks. the thing is the boy don't even ... [snip!] ... she in a bind  "</blockquote> I wouldn't let someone watch my kid either that referred to him as "the boy""

oh gosh i love that kid to death he's even said he wanted to spent the day with me once and she said no. Iv been around him since he was 3 and he's going on 8. && plus he is "a boy".

Quoting katxo:" He has a good job which is why he pays so much. They broke up within 3 months of her being pregnant ... [snip!] ... after this new child is born. She's going to be pissed about it but the child isn't the only one he needs to be responsible for"

Totally understand! DH has an OK job but after everything comes out of his check we are left with about $800/month which is less money than our bills rack up! Thankfully my Mama is our landlord lmao. From what we can tell the CS goes to going out to eat and going to chuck E cheese etc not necessarily things to care for her

Quoting katxo:" He has a good job which is why he pays so much. They broke up within 3 months of her being pregnant ... [snip!] ... after this new child is born. She's going to be pissed about it but the child isn't the only one he needs to be responsible for"

She see's SO sister used to get $600 a month but her BD also worked for the government SO does not...

<blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" got ya! thanks. the thing is the boy don't even have to go to daycare iv offered to watch him on days ... [snip!] ... him on days i'm off after school when when i get off early but she don't want me to watch him... unless she in a bind  "</blockquote>



We set up the right of first refusal. So instead of daycare whoever is related that's home watches him. It saved us a lot in daycare expenses. Have your SO bring it up at the hearing.

I get about $516 a month off my EX, he thinks he pays too much hahaha reading that u pay $600 i think my EX gets off lighty! Considering my $516 is maintance, childcare and everything else in one  

Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" got ya! thanks. the thing is the boy don't even ... [snip!] ... whoever is related that's home watches him. It saved us a lot in daycare expenses. Have your SO bring it up at the hearing."

good idea! ill let him know.. iv also told him that around here they have an "after school program" that is usually provided at the Y or sometimes even at the school.. its alot cheaper than daycare and he'd probillie love it anyways.

Quoting NattyBrimble:" I get about $516 a month off my EX, he thinks he pays too much hahaha reading that u pay $600 i think my EX gets off lighty! Considering my $516 is maintance, childcare and everything else in one  "

hah. Tell your ex I only get $200 a month. My ex gets off lightly lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting NattyBrimble:</b>" I get about $516 a month off my EX, he thinks he pays too much hahaha reading that u pay $600 i think my EX gets off lighty! Considering my $516 is maintance, childcare and everything else in one  "</blockquote>




Seriously! We got $80 a month. He stopped paying and we just gave up. As long as he is taking care of him when he has him we let it go.

<blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" good idea! ill let him know.. iv also told him that around here they have an "after school program" ... [snip!] ... usually provided at the Y or sometimes even at the school.. its alot cheaper than daycare and he'd probillie love it anyways."</blockquote>




If you guy can prove you're available and she's just choosing not to use you sometimes you can get your half of daycare waved. It worked for us anyways.

Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting NattyBrimble:</b>" I get about $516 a month off my EX, he thinks ... [snip!] ... We got $80 a month. He stopped paying and we just gave up. As long as he is taking care of him when he has him we let it go."

When Collin was a baby he was giving her like $250 a week. but he was working under the table. She thought she would get more by taking him to court. and since it was all under the table she ended up only getting what min wage was at the time and ended up with like only $176 a month! It's all about the money with her.. : (

Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting B-Baby:</b>" good idea! ill let him know.. iv also told him ... [snip!] ... available and she's just choosing not to use you sometimes you can get your half of daycare waved. It worked for us anyways."

huh... this stuff gets complicated! lol i guess you just gotta know what to bring up and say. But then again since were not married.. i don't even know if it'd be worth me going to the hearing and getting involved? More than likely it would only make things worse on SO.

Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting NattyBrimble:</b>" I get about $516 a month off my EX, he thinks ... [snip!] ... We got $80 a month. He stopped paying and we just gave up. As long as he is taking care of him when he has him we let it go."

My DD Father/Sperm Donor, Hasnt seen her in over 2 yrs soon to be 3 i think ( in July)!
Not from me its him whos not interested! His Loss my DD has enough love and supprt to make up for his Smurf! I wanted to tell him to Shove his money but i was told thats wrong and unfair on my DD

&& is it true if he tried to get more time in the month with his son he would only have to pay for the time he's with his mom?