re: tying tubes vs. condoms..

Quoting P@m3L@!!:" he wont do that. for the same reasons as me. if its not neccesary then he wont.   im leaning toward the tubal. can it be reversed easily if health problems occur? im worried about that."

Yeah it can be reversed but it's LOTS of money and doesn't always work.

Quoting Ashlee♥:" Yeah it can be reversed but it's LOTS of money and doesn't always work."

If you have any thought in your mind about getting it reversed, I wouldn't do it.

Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" I say no. I watch this lady on youtube, her hubby got a vasectomy back in 2004 because they were SURE ... [snip!] ... type of birth control, because in all honesty, YOU NEVER KNOW, you're feelings might change a few years down the line."

im worried about that too. but i will have 4 kids. and i finally get my girl this time! so i think im confident in being satisfied with my 4.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Buffy♥:</b>" What about your hubby getting a vasectomy?"</blockquote>



That would be my suggestion also.

Although, with our last we thought it was our LAST. Then this little guy came along and we were over the moon thrilled about it. We discussed him getting a vasectomy after he arrives because there is no way I'm getting my tubes tied. I deliver vaginally and it would be a whole separate procedure and I just don't want to. We decided neither of us will do anything permanent until we're both in our 30's. We know we don't want anymore kids after that and I have another 3 years after this baby come before I turn 30. Until then well be doing the pill with natural family planning.

I also want to add there are risks to vasectomy! The main one being auto immune disorders. The sperm is cut off and has no where to go when the man ejaculates, so after being absorbed by the male's body so many times, it may end up in the blood stream, where it does not belong, and his immune system will fight it and cna result in auto immune disorders. I sure would not make my husband go through that. Nor am I willing to get my tubes tied or anything like that. good luck in whatever you decide.

Quoting Ashlee♥:" If you have any thought in your mind about getting it reversed, I wouldn't do it."

i only think of it being reversed for medical reasons. ive heard from alot of mamas who had the tubal that their periods became so over whelming with pain, and they were in pain always, even when not on their period. bleh. i dont want that. ><
ive been going back and forth between just using condoms and keeping myself 'normal'.... but i dont want another little one any time soon. if at all.
decisions decisions!

Quoting PurpleBama582:" There is actually a procedure now where they just insert small rods into your uterus where the fallopian ... [snip!] ... 5 years of that, the woman needs a hysterectomy(a stat I got from a nurse), but I don't know if it's any different with that. "

I think thats a very new procedure, i would be very worried about it TBH I am anti most ops just because of my history really, the fear of changing my mind and having complications down the line put me off,my mum have her tubes clipped and one of her ovaries embedded into her bowel and she then had to undergo a full hysterectomy.
Personally I plan on donating my eggs if they are accepted and then seeing what the possibility of womb transplant is at that point. I am aware its a radical step but if i could spare another woman half of what we have been though then its worth it x
but back to your question i think its more down to you and your partner, if you know hand on heart that another child is the last thing you want the the more permanent option is better for you. We cannot use condoms ( i am allergic to latex and some of the spermicide and or other oils they put in them) We obviously have not had much call to use them but when we have been its not been as good really. jees sorry for the essay lol!

Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" I also want to add there are risks to vasectomy! The main one being auto immune disorders. The sperm ... [snip!] ... make my husband go through that. Nor am I willing to get my tubes tied or anything like that. good luck in whatever you decide."

umm...I was with a guy once that had a vasectomy and he still ejaculated. How does that work? hmmm....

Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" I also want to add there are risks to vasectomy! The main one being auto immune disorders. The sperm ... [snip!] ... make my husband go through that. Nor am I willing to get my tubes tied or anything like that. good luck in whatever you decide."

oh man, if he knew this he would never ever let it happen. he is already saying no.... lol.....
and thank you!

Quoting Colt's mommy:" umm...I was with a guy once that had a vasectomy and he still ejaculated. How does that work? hmmm...."

they ejaculate seminal fluid, but no sperm. The sperm stays back. that's what a vasectomy is, cutting off the tube that takes the sperm to the seminal fluid. So the sperm stays inside their bodies, where it does not belong. Men keep producing sperm all their life, unlike us women who have a set number of eggs at birth.

Quoting Colt's mommy:" umm...I was with a guy once that had a vasectomy and he still ejaculated. How does that work? hmmm...."

Because ejaculate is different from sperm. A man who has a zero sperm count can still ejaculate.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P@m3L@!!:</b>" im worried about that too. but i will have 4 kids. and i finally get my girl this time! so i think im confident in being satisfied with my 4."</blockquote>

One thing to consider is your DH getting fixed and freezing some swimmers to save if you guys happen to change your mind later down the road.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:</b>" I also want to add there are risks to vasectomy! The main one being auto immune disorders. The sperm ... [snip!] ... make my husband go through that. Nor am I willing to get my tubes tied or anything like that. good luck in whatever you decide."</blockquote>


That's interesting! I've not heard about that before.

Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" they ejaculate seminal fluid, but no sperm. The sperm stays back. that's what a vasectomy is, cutting ... [snip!] ... where it does not belong. Men keep producing sperm all their life, unlike us women who have a set number of eggs at birth."

ahh...makes sense ;)

Quoting ✰ Mrs. B ✰:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:</b>" I also want to add there are risks ... [snip!] ... like that. good luck in whatever you decide."</blockquote> That's interesting! I've not heard about that before."

there are various studies that go back and forth on the issue, so it isn't proven, but the idea behind it makes sense to me. Where does the sperm go after a vasectomy?? you know??