So I told him....again

I told my bf once again that I don't want to have an abortion and once again he said the same thing. he told me I couldn't have the baby. How irresponsible it is and how bad of a life this kid would have. this just sucks

What do you think?
I mean do you feel the baby will have a bad life or have to 'go without'?
ultimately it's all up to you anyway.

Im sorry your going through this momma   I hope it gets better.

Tell him it is not his choice, and to get over it. You want to keep it, so you are, and thats the end of that.

If you can't do it, don't. Be prepard to raise a kid on your own.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope it works out for you.

<3

Unfortunately, you can't make him want the baby... but it is your choice.

Do you want to try it alone? It's rough, but you CAN do it.

Why does he say it would have a bad life?

If you want the baby then have it. Don't let him put you down.

It's a permanent decision that YOU need to be okay with. If you aren't comfortable going through with it, don't let someone pressure you into having it done. It should only be up to you.

The quality of life of any child has is up to the one raising them. Certain circumstances can create challenges, but a "good life" is not impossible to achieve.

Consider your options and think about yourself, not your seemingly supportive boyfriend. Do what's best for you, what you are okay with. Either way you decide, there are plenty of women here who can give you the support you're lacking. People from both sides of the fence who have been through it all. You're not alone.

well hes wrong you can have it because its your decision.. you took the first step by telling him now you need a game plan. either adoption or if you want to keep the baby you need to figure out how that will be possible

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how far along are you right now? he cannot tell you what you do with your uterus or fetus! are you having second thoughts about having the baby or are you still going for it?

He isn't the one that will have to deal with the physical and emotional repercussions of an abortion. I have a good friend who had one and the boyfriend was all sweet and supportive to convince her to do it, then after the fact he dumped her, she still regrets it to this day. She was left to deal with the after math of it and he didn't think twice.

If you want to have the baby, please don't let him convince you otherwise.

I've been in that situation, and I've regretted letting my boyfriend convince me it was the right thing to do (I likely would have made the decision anyway but I would feel a lot better knowing I made the decision myself and not felt pressured into it). If you want to keep the baby, and believe it's possible for you to raise the baby and give him/her everything they will need and that you'll be able to manage, then you should absolutely keep the baby - whether he will be around or not. If that doesn't sound possible to you, and you think abortion is the best option then I still support you in deciding that.

Regardless of what you choose, it's an extremely difficult situation to be in and I hope it all works out for you. I'm sorry you have to go through this.

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Well, he can't MAKE you have an abortion.

As far as a low-quality life goes, do you have a good job? A support system? Shelter in a safe area? Healthy food and the ability to provide more? Do you have health insurance? Can you provide well enough that you won't be stressed out so much that it keeps you from enjoying your baby?

Those are really the only things I can think of off the top of my head that would partially ensure a good life. The rest of the stuff, love, patience, happiness... that helps too.

Does your boyfriend have higher standards of what a "quality life" means to him? Have you asked him what he means? Just because he doesn't think the life you guys can provide is up to par, doesn't mean it actually isn't!

If you've made up your mind, stick to your guns. Don't let him guilt you. My fiance tried that too before he realized I wasn't gonna no matter what he said, and that it isn't what he wants.

I think I know how you must be feeling, I've been there my husband really stuck his heels in   he gave me no choice really I couldn't just leave him coz I had our children to think about. if your child is his then it's up to you what you think is best; but if your child is not his then I would strongly urge you not to do it for him. trust me, abortion you didn't want is tougher than tough   I wouldn't have done it if I hadn't thought it best for our kids that their parents stayed together. I'm sorry you are going through this too.
I am here if u need to talk x

Quoting xrawrr:" If you want to have the baby, please don't let him convince you otherwise. I've been in that situation, ... [snip!] ... it's an extremely difficult situation to be in and I hope it all works out for you. I'm sorry you have to go through this."

 

Some people regret them some people dont. You just have to figure out which one YOU are!