Quoting ♥MichelleMo♥:" No plans to cheat, just 'secret desires to be with someone else'.. ya know? Trust me, I'm ready to part, just need to wait until I'm able.. I'm just discussing my feelings; not my actions!"

Well, there really isn't anything wrong with "secret desires to be with someone else". It happens.

Quoting House of Estrogen:" Well, there really isn't anything wrong with "secret desires to be with someone else". It happens."

yea, well, i feel like it extends from my SO being a lying smurf for the past -almost- 2 yrs... i almost feel like if i cheat, it would make splitting up easier because i wont b the only one who wants it anymore.. just make it easier to move on...

Quoting ♥MichelleMo♥:" yea, well, i feel like it extends from my SO being a lying smurf for the past -almost- 2 yrs... i almost ... [snip!] ... cheat, it would make splitting up easier because i wont b the only one who wants it anymore.. just make it easier to move on..."

I have an amazing husband and I still get the desires.   The only important part is that I don't act on them.

But I cheated on an ex to get back at him and it was awful. It somehow turned against me so if you decide to go that route, be careful.

Quoting ♥MichelleMo♥:" yea, well, i feel like it extends from my SO being a lying smurf for the past -almost- 2 yrs... i almost ... [snip!] ... cheat, it would make splitting up easier because i wont b the only one who wants it anymore.. just make it easier to move on..."

Sometimes that doesn't always work. I cheated on my abusive ex. I regret cheating, because he accused me of it for months, and he constantly lied about everything. So I figured, if I cheated, he would let go of me. WRONG. He wanted to work through it. I finally left anyways 2 days later. Don't cheat, its not worth it. The guilt isn't worth it.

Quoting Gizmo ♥ Bry:" Sometimes that doesn't always work. I cheated on my abusive ex. I regret cheating, because he accused ... [snip!] ... He wanted to work through it. I finally left anyways 2 days later. Don't cheat, its not worth it. The guilt isn't worth it."

Yea I don't plan on cheating.. i just can't help but think about it sometimes, ya know? :/ i wish this situation was easier

Quoting ♥MichelleMo♥:" Yea I don't plan on cheating.. i just can't help but think about it sometimes, ya know? :/ i wish this situation was easier"

Thinking about it is normal. Everyone does it. I just don't recommend cheating. I'm still paying for what I did over 5 years ago. >.>

Quoting ♥MichelleMo♥:" so what if he did the lying? would that justifying you cheating.. almost like payback? lol- i know it ... [snip!] ... it sounds horrible.. but i cant help the desires.. and no, i haven't cheated.. but like i said, i can't help how i feel...."

No, nothing would justify cheating... if you're unhappy, get out. You have good reason to leave so do it. Don't get caught up in his vindictive games.

Lying about talking to another female for years is worse than cheating with sex in my opinion. My ex did that to me, talked to this woman online for our entire relationship, I found out he was still talking to her even after I asked him not to- and a few weeks after we got married, he left his email open, and I saw all the emails back and forth....One of which was from the night before we got married where he said "I wish I was marrying you instead" and pretty much every email she was trash talking me, and he was encouraging it and adding to the insults. I counted THAT as cheating, and he lied about it for a long time...emotional cheating is far worse than physical in my opinion. Emotional cheating comes with love and attachment, physical is just a sex. Anyways, it was horrible, so I count lying about something for a long time as the worst, especially when emotional cheating is involved.