I feel horrible...

I miscarried an estimated 9W pregnancy last night.... And every time someone asks me if I'm okay I was to start bawling and shake them...no I don't feel okay I feel like I shouldn't be this upset since it was so early....my last pregnancy I had a textbook pregnancy and came home with a perfect baby girl....my husbands gone at training...Im not okay....I feel horrible, I did things I shouldn't have because I didn't know and I feel like its my fault and I feel stupid for being this attached to this pregnancy...

Quoting ~Nanin~:" I miscarried an estimated 9W pregnancy last night.... And every time someone asks me if I'm okay I was ... [snip!] ... have because I didn't know and I feel like its my fault and I feel stupid for being this attached to this pregnancy..."

Im sorry for your loss...  

I know just how you feel... Try not to beat yourself up too much over it. I know it's easier said that done, trust me. Just try to keep your head up and think positive thoughts. I know it's easier said than done, trust me... If you want to talk, just vent and rant to someone, feel free to PM me, I'll be up for a while. -hugs- Praying for you.

Quoting ~Nanin~:" I miscarried an estimated 9W pregnancy last night.... And every time someone asks me if I'm okay I was ... [snip!] ... have because I didn't know and I feel like its my fault and I feel stupid for being this attached to this pregnancy..."

Firstly, it is NOT your fault. It wouldn't have mattered what you did while not knowing. Miscarriages account for nearly 40% of pregnancies. We just have technology that can detect pregnancy so much sooner. You're allowed to grieve. I know with my first miscarriage I didn't feel much. But the second one hit home very hard. Just keep focusing on the future. You are ALLOWED to not be okay. Ask for comfort from someone who you can depend on. And think about the wonderful new life you will be able to make out of this sad loss.

Quoting Is that still my name?:" Firstly, it is NOT your fault. It wouldn't have mattered what you did while not knowing. Miscarriages ... [snip!] ... from someone who you can depend on. And think about the wonderful new life you will be able to make out of this sad loss. "

^I couldn't have said that any better...

It's just so hard without my husband here... I just feel like I should have known sooner despite the birth control and I shouldn't have been lifting those boxes for moving and I should have taken it easy when I started spotting... I just keep thinking had I known I could have prevented it.... I know it's irrational, I'm a nursing student with less than a year to go... Someone asked me of I was relieved it happened...another asked if I was happy it happened...and another said it was a blessing in disguise It makes me feel like I shouldn't be taking it this hard...

Quoting ~Nanin~:" It's just so hard without my husband here... I just feel like I should have known sooner despite the ... [snip!] ... happy it happened...and another said it was a blessing in disguise It makes me feel like I shouldn't be taking it this hard..."

Each person and each circumstance is idfferent. Maybe you are taking it so hard because you miss your husband.

Quoting ~Nanin~:" It's just so hard without my husband here... I just feel like I should have known sooner despite the ... [snip!] ... happy it happened...and another said it was a blessing in disguise It makes me feel like I shouldn't be taking it this hard..."

I know you feel like you could have prevented it... and this is going to probably sound harsh and I don't mean it to, but it was going to happen anyway... no matter WHAT you would have done. I know it's hard without your husband there with you, and I wish it were easier to deal with. And how is someone going to ask if you are happy or relieved it happened? I would have done popped someone in the jaw for asking such a silly question. Just try and take it easy for a few days, try not to think of it (again, easier said than done I know.) You will get through this, sweetie.

Oh gosh, honey, i'm so sorry for your loss and i completely understand your feelings!

I lost my baby at 11wks this past Sept. They estimate the baby has passed somewhere in the 8th wk, but my body continued on with the pregnancy 3 more wks.

I struggled with the loss tremendously! I struggled a lot with guilt, too. Was it my fault? I work as a CNA & there's a LOT of physical work involved.... did i not lift properly? Did I work too hard? There were so many "what ifs"

I spoke to a specialist at the beginning of this pregnancy about those concerns b/c I was worried about ruining this pregnancy. He stopped me right away & told me straight out that a pregnancy loss at that stage has NOTHING to do with anything I lifted or did. A loss at that age is almost always some kind of problem with the egg, the embryo, the chromosones.... and was your body's was of ending a pregnancy that would not be viable in the long run. He told me simply that this one was just not meant to be and I had to stop blaming myself.

Honey, you're feeling even worse b/c you're going through this alone... without your husband. I'm sorry you don't have his support right next to you, but I hope he can be there for you soon. Until then, please reach out here in forums or PM one of us if you ever need to just vent or chat. No one can understand better than someone who has gone through it   My love & thoughts with you, darlin'

Thanks ladies... My husband wont be back till late march at the earliest then a couple weeks later he is off to Texas ( joys of being married to a military
Man)... I wish I could just hide out away from people for a few days but Back to classes tomorrow and work and clinicals this weekend....thanks ladies for all your support and prayers I just hope when we decide to try again we have a healthy one :/

Quoting ~Nanin~:" Thanks ladies... My husband wont be back till late march at the earliest then a couple weeks later he ... [snip!] ... this weekend....thanks ladies for all your support and prayers I just hope when we decide to try again we have a healthy one :/"

It's not a problem. Sending good thoughts, hugs, and happy things your way.  

Quoting ~Nanin~:" Thanks ladies... My husband wont be back till late march at the earliest then a couple weeks later he ... [snip!] ... this weekend....thanks ladies for all your support and prayers I just hope when we decide to try again we have a healthy one :/"

I wish that you get your rainbow baby when you're ready to try again.
Feel free to PM me anytime if you ever need someone to talk to, a morale boost, or just a vent.