Custody/TMI questions

I'm really not familiar with family court/custody stuff but I've been hearing 3 different storys from different people.

My baby's father has 4 kids all together, one with me and his 3 others are with the same girl(she acts like she's smurfing 15 years old) but he has been in jail since August (which he gets sentenced Friday or Monday), his mom/sister and BBM have told me that if he has no contacted with the 3 other kids within 6 months to a year that his rights can be taken away....He has talked to the C.O in jail, they've told him that he has to sign off, and I've called family court and they've told me that they don't know, they haven't heard anything like that....I was wondering if anyone has heard this at all? He has tried to contact the other BBM 2 or 3 times to see how the kids are, she refuses to write him back. I got a call from her Saturday bitching at me, telling me that if he writes her again that she will file harassment against him..(which honestly i find bullsmurf)

My TMI question is, I had my baby via csection December 5th, they say that your period is suppose to last 4 to 6 weeks. Well mine was only 2 to 3 weeks and ever sense then I've had brown discharge, now its turned into white discharge...is this normal?

Has any ladies tried the IUD and have had problems? I want/need to get on birth control, I was on the depo, i hated it and i know i'll forget to take the pill.

I'm in Montana and I was told if the father has no contact for 6 months *I think* then you can go to court to get his rights taken away

The custody thing varies from state to state, but generally, if they haven't tried to contact the child in a year they call it abandonment, and if you are married, and the married partner wants to adopt the child, then you have a chance.

As far as the IUD goes, I had an absolutely horrible experience with Paragard, and could never recommend it.

if u know where hes at, he has to be served that u want to take away his rights,

if u didn't know where he was, u have to show that he dropped off the face of the earth for so many months or so...


when we went to fam court 1 father was in custody, they bought him in court room with deputies and in cuffs...

so he could still fight u from jail

For the IUD, I got preg with mirena in place, I hate that thing....

General rule of thumb is no contact for 6 months to 18 months depending on the state then you can lose your rights to your kids and one way is through being put in jail for six months or longer can be veiwed as abandonment.

here, jail doesn't count, you have to NOT know where he is.... you're period IS within normal limits, and i have no experience with iud.

jail in some states can be veiwed as abandonment in some states. I know this for sure, I've seen it happen.

Quoting pilot Jess:" The custody thing varies from state to state, but generally, if they haven't tried to contact the child ... [snip!] ... have a chance. As far as the IUD goes, I had an absolutely horrible experience with Paragard, and could never recommend it."

Sucks that you cant get rights taken away without being married... stupid ass state of colorado.

He's written letters to the mother to see how they are doing, does that count? Cause i know damn well if he tried putting one of his kids names on it, she would go after him for harassment.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brittany & Aaliyah xD:</b>" He's written letters to the mother to see how they are doing, does that count? Cause i know damn well if he tried putting one of his kids names on it, she would go after him for harassment."</blockquote>



the only way he can contact anybody without costing alot of money is thru mail, hes in jail, he is trying to make contact... Hes still inquiring about the kids, unless in ur state him being incarcerated is grounds for abandonment, he can use that in court to say, "hey, I wrote letters and asked about my kids, shes being difficult ect,
Thats the 1 thing that worked in my favor, I always tried to make contact, and had a paper trail from my pregnancy, up till weeks before we went to court...