I need advice :'(

I'm 16 years old and I'm with a 14 year old..I love him with all that I am, he's the only person who has every accepted me, I would harm myself and drink before i met him, and before i met him i had an ex who would force me into sex and another who would guilt me..my mother had known about my past...and now im with someone who actually CARES about me..anyways my mother strongly dislikes him because he is mexican...her excuses for not liking him though are, hes had a bad home life he might pick up on his familys traits, he smokes pot, hes too young and its weird...she doesn't care if i cry about it, or that i love him and he loves me. she doesn't like him, and he hasn't done anything wrong...my grandparents think he is homely (unnitractive) and so does my mom because he is mexican...recently i slept over at a friends with him and we ended up making love..it was wonderful...he didn't use protection, he used the pull out method...and now i think there is a possiblity of me being pregnant...I'm scared to death...HELP....my family is going to hate me 

I dont usually advocate for the pull out method, but it's more effective than using nothing.. If it was within 72 hours, take the plan B pill... You really don't want a baby at 16. I was 18 when I was pregnant with DD, and it's made life very hard... Always remember that 5 mins of pleasure is not worth it.. Not til you're more settled in life anyway.

Im sorry but i hope you dont expect your relationship with him to last long. he is 14. and mentally, he's probably about 12.

when was your last period?

Quoting HotMom21ERF:" Im sorry but i hope you dont expect your relationship with him to last long. he is 14. and mentally, he's probably about 12."

I agree.

Also, I think you need to tell your mom that you might be pregnant. When did you have sex?

Quoting Platypus:" I dont usually advocate for the pull out method, but it's more effective than using nothing.. If it was ... [snip!] ... made life very hard... Always remember that 5 mins of pleasure is not worth it.. Not til you're more settled in life anyway."

In KY if you are less than 18 you have to have a prescription for plan B. They won't just sale it to you. Unless there is someone that is over 18 that could pick it up for her.

Quoting I'm me:" In KY if you are less than 18 you have to have a prescription for plan B. They won't just sale it to you. Unless there is someone that is over 18 that could pick it up for her."

She could go to the doctor to get the script. Its better that way anyways, insurance will cover it with a prescription

Quoting HotMom21ERF:" Im sorry but i hope you dont expect your relationship with him to last long. he is 14. and mentally, he's probably about 12."

your awful at giving actual advice, thanks smurf...

Quoting I'm me:" when was your last period?"

im suppose to have it on the 10th normally...and its the 9th...

what do you want advice on in particular?

first of all, you could be pregnant. if that's the case, test when you have missed your period. in the meantime, use condoms if you're going to do that again. if you're pregnant, tell your mother and deal accordingly.

as far as your mom not liking him. it makes sense. moms usually don't like the guys their daughters date. him being mexican isn't really a concern to me as much as his age and your age is. he is still young, you're both young, but boys mature much slower than girls. just because he cares for you doesn't really mean a lot. it's nice that he does, but you need to be more secure with yourself and stuff before you worry about boys. if you're harming yourself and drinking, you need to get that under control and figure all that out. having a boy who loves you is wonderful for you, but before all that, you need to be okay with you. it's not the best thing to decide your "okayness" just based on one boy in the world, or any boy/guy in the world at all.

ok. that's my advice. good luck to you.

Quoting nasela:" your awful at giving actual advice, thanks smurf..."

I mean.. shes not being far from truthful.. maybe a little harsh, but that's the reality of it.. guys at 14 are very immature. If this is just a scare, please learn from this. Ive been down this road before too, and im experienced in this.. You dont want to be in this situation ever again.

I say you hope to hell you're not pregnant. Wait until your period is due and take a test. If you are, you need to consider all your options. Abortion (your best option in my opinion), adoption, or parenting. Please he aware that becoming a 16 yer old mother and turning him into a 14 year old father is the worst thing you can possibly do for your own future, his future, and your relationship.

If you are not pregnant, get on some birth control and use it correctly and in combination with condoms please. The "pull out method" is NOT a method of birth control. Some semen comes out before the man ever ejaculates.

Hopefully you're not pregnant. You don't want to have 14 year olds baby at 16, especially with all the drama already going on. You should consider getting on the pill

Quoting nasela:" your awful at giving actual advice, thanks smurf..."

Says the 16 year old.....  

Quoting nasela:" your awful at giving actual advice, thanks smurf..."

yeah, come back on BG in a month and tell me if you are still together.